The Queen's Proclamation

 August 2005

News, updates, & pronouncements from Pat Ballard, the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

To exist is to change, to change is to mature,
 to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.

Henri Bergson

I've always heard that there are two things certain in this life—death and taxes. But there's another thing that's certain. Change. If we live, we experience change. Even when we think things are going along as usual, there is change at work. We may not be aware of it until it hits us in the face, but be assured that it is happening.

Some people welcome change. Or at least, they embrace change with the attitude that Charles DuBois talked about when he said, "The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become."

But change is hard for others. Especially when they see it happening to someone they love and want to keep "the same."

I heard a marriage counselor say once that the most well-adjusted, compatible, and most-likely-to-succeed marriage was one in which the husband and wife "allowed' their mate to be/become who they were meant to become. We're constantly changing, as individuals. Two people don't remain the same individuals as they were when they married—whether they married young, middle-aged or old. If they live together long enough, each one of them will change.

When it comes to change, there are two major danger points we all need to be aware of in our marriages or in dealing with our friends. Some people don't want us to change. They want to keep us the same forever. That's a dangerous person for us, if we want and welcome personal growth and change. Then there are those folks who want us to change who we are to fit their lives. Whenever they decide to change their beliefs, attitudes, interests, etc., they want us to forget our own desires and follow theirs.

We need to be very careful that we don't allow either of these attitudes to affect us, and we need to be very careful that we're not one of these people who won't allow those around us to grow, mature and become all that they can be.

I think James Baldwin says it best:

"For nothing is fixed, forever and forever and forever, it is not fixed; the earth is always shifting, the light is always changing, the sea does not cease to grind down rock. Generations do not cease to be born, and we are responsible to them because we are the only witnesses they have. The sea rises, the light fails, lovers cling to each other, and children cling to us. The moment we cease to hold each other, the sea engulfs us and the light goes out."
 

 A Word From Pat

I hope everyone had a fun-filled July. July is the month for vacations, isn't it? I realized this summer that my husband and I haven't been on a "real" vacation for a very long time. We travel to Mississippi and Texas to see family—a lot—but we don't go on vacations. I think I'll talk to him about that!

My step-mom of more than 20 years, Myra, died the first of the month. She was 84 and had become bedridden, and was ready to go, so I think it was kind of a blessing for her and her loved ones when she took a nap one day and didn't wake up. She got her wish. Ever since my dad died in his sleep one morning, she said that's the way she wanted to go, and she did.

My son, Eric, and his family went to Michigan to see Tiffany's (Eric's wife) family. They spent the week camping. Yes, actually sleeping in a tent! Eric said it wasn't so bad after the weather cooled down a little, and they figured out how to keep their air mattress from deflating during the night.

I worked the last two weeks of July at the office where I fill in occasionally. They've dubbed me their "call girl" because they call me when someone is out. But I'm looking forward to getting back to my writing and own "stuff" this coming week.

Everyone have a wonderful August! Stay cool!



                                                                    Pat


Visit Pat's Place at www.patballard.com │ Write me at patballard@bellsouth.net

Blog me at http://pearlsong.typepad.com/the_queens_proclamation
 

Books Existing and Upcoming

A couple of months ago I signed a contract with Pearlsong Press for Abigail's Revenge, my fifth novel. The publisher, Peggy Elam, Ph.D., hopes to have the Abigail's Revenge ready for sale in the Pearlsong Press booth at the Southern Festival of Books October 7-9, 2005.

Abigail's Revenge is a romantic suspense, and is different than any other novel I've written. It's also a good bit longer.

Abigail Avery was framed for the murder of her father and sent to prison when she was only eighteen years old. A bunch of crooked "good ole boys" from her hometown of Leaky Springs, Mississippi want her land and house. Abigail doesn't have any idea why they would want her property. But they were willing to kill for it and send her to prison, hoping to get her out of the way long enough to convince her to sell or to acquire it in some other manner. But now, ten years later, Abigail's out of prison and heading back to Leaky Springs to get revenge on the people, especially the judge, who stole ten years of her life.

I'm continuing to work on my first nonfiction book, The 10 Commandments of Self-Love, a motivational book on accepting ourselves as we are instead of obsessing over trying to look like some unrealistic actress or image we see in an magazine.

Meanwhile, my new book Dangerous Curves Ahead—a compilation of 10 short stories—is available through Pearlsong Press (www.pearlsong.com). After its May 2004 publication, Dangerous Curves Ahead received a glowing review from Cindi Appel on the Fearless Books review website. Appel wrote:

Ballard doesn’t pull punches. She shows her heroines exhibiting ample will and tenacity to tell off those who would shame them into becoming something they aren’t just to blend in with society's narrow-minded notions of beauty.

To read the entire review, go to www.pearlsong.com/dangerouscurvesahead.htm. You can also read an excerpt from Dangerous Curves Ahead's title story, Dangerous Curves, by clicking on the title link in this sentence.

Pearlsong Press has also re-released my existing books, Wanted: One Groom, Nobody’s Perfect, His Brother’s Child and A Worthy Heir.

The Pearlsong Press edition of Nobody's Perfect was called "a charming, witty love story with a twist" in the July 2004 Small Press Bookwatch section of Midwest Book Review. Read the whole review at www.pearlsong.com/nobodysperfect.htm, or an excerpt at
www.pearlsong.com/nobodys_excerpt.htm.

I’m extremely happy that my books are now available in both print and eBook format. Please visit Pearlsong Press and check out all the options that are available.
 

Ask your local  library to stock my books, allowing many others to enjoy them
while spreading the size acceptance message.

 

Weighty Matters

I'm going to let this fantastic article by Sandy Szwarc talk for me this time. It's kind of long, but well worth the read.

Ideal-isms
by Sandy Szwarc

If being overweight is as deadly as we've been told, the evidence should be irrefutable. It's not.
 
"The conclusion that obesity is dangerous represents a selective review of the data," concluded David Garner, Ph.D., and Susan Wooley, Ph.D., in "Confronting the Failure of Behavioral and Dietary Treatments for Obesity," published by Clinical Psychology Review in 1991.


Their comprehensive examination of studies on obesity-related mortalities and morbidities found  repeated design problems, cases where the key conclusions contradicted the data and summaries that selectively chose studies supporting the conclusions of the researchers. Challenging the popular view of obesity-linked mortalities, they said, "a number of epidemiological studies and reviews have concluded either that obesity does not confer elevated health risks or that such risks have been greatly exaggerated."


That's the same conclusion Glenn Gaesser, Ph.D. arrived at after scrutinizing all the relevant data in his book, Big Fat Lies: The Truth About Your Weight and Your Health (Fawcett Columbine, 1996).


Please read the rest of the article here:

http://www.techcentralstation.com/080403E.html
 

Calendar Of Events

Hear Pat Monday, August 15, on the Health At Every Size radio show with Dr. Peggy Elam. The show airs on Radio Free Nashville (WRFN Pasquo, TN, lpfm 98.9) Monday morning from 10:00 to 11 a.m. CST. The show is streamed live over the Internet at
http://www.radiofreenashville.org/

You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.

Show #1 discusses Pat's romance novels
http://www.wcrsradio.org/RadioStage/size/SIZE051.mp3

Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
http://www.wcrsradio.org/RadioStage/size/SIZE052.mp3

And check out the photos from the Nov. 6 Mississippi Authors Festival that are online at The Queen's Proclamation blog and The Pearlsong Letter blog. (Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums" heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos. While you're visiting, post a comment on the blogs!)

Pat will also be appearing at the Pearlsong Press booth at the Southern Festival of Books in downtown Nashville October 7-9, 2005.
 

Book Contest

Register to win a free copy of the Pat Ballard book of your choice at Top 100 Women Sites: http://www.top100womensites.com/contest.htm.
 

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