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Something to think about....
never dies a natural death.
Today has been an unusual day for me. A hard day. Up front, let me admit, I, Pat Ballard, am an incurable optimist and an incurable romantic. I will usually take the Pollyanna approach in most case scenarios. "It's all gonna be okay!" And I definitely believe in "love ever after."
So, let me tell you why today was hard for me.
My day yesterday ended with an argument with my husband, and today started with the argument continuing. Not long after he left for work, I talked with a friend who talked about a friend who was extremely angry with their mate. After I got off the phone with her, I got a call from someone I love deeply, who was trying to decide whether to leave her husband or not. Honest, I'm not making this up!
Finally, I left my house to run some errands. I found myself still out at lunchtime, so I stopped and got something to eat. As I sat down, I picked up on the conversation of two young men walking past me. One said to the other, "I mean, she just threw my clothes out in the yard! Now, I've done some mean things, but nothing that mean."
I settled in to try to have a quiet lunch and think about what I was going to write in this section of the newsletter, and gradually became aware of the conversation of the two men sitting not far from me. One was busily giving the other advice on "getting out of the situation." "You're an upbeat person," he said. "I like to see you smile, and you're not smiling much anymore." The conversation continued the entire time I ate my lunch, with one telling stories about what "she'd" done and the other saying to "move on."
Why do these things happen? I pondered, as I continued my day.
James D. Bryden said, "Love does not die easily. It is a living thing. It thrives in the face of all of life's hazards, save one―neglect."
Now I won't take the Pollyanna approach and say dogmatically, "Okay, there you have it! It's neglect." But I will say, being the incurable romantic that I am, that if we'd all slow down just a little and take time to really listen to what our mates are saying, to pay attention to what they want and need, to touch, to love, to get to know each other again, then maybe we can join Amy Tan when she says, "I am like a falling star who has finally found her place next to another in a lovely constellation, where we will sparkle in the heavens forever."
Incidentally, everything is okay at my house tonight.
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Pat will be a guest on the Health At
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Pat will spend the next few months promoting Abigail's Revenge. She's in the process of setting up booksignings with local Borders bookstores, and others.
You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.
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Books — Existing and Upcoming
Abigail's Revenge, my fifth novel, is published! My publisher, Peggy Elam, pulled a few rabbits out of the hat and the book debuted at the Southern Festival of Books in Nashville last October. In fact, it was delivered to the booth on Friday after the festival had started. That is where I saw my first copy...hot off the press!
It's a Romantic Suspense, and is different than any other novel I've written. It's also a good bit longer.
Abigail Avery was falsely
convicted of the murder of her father and sent to prison when she was only
eighteen years old. The supposedly good citizens of Leaky Springs,
Mississippi were silent as an innocent young woman was orphaned, accused,
swiftly tried and locked away. Her only clue in the travesty of justice is
that a bunch of crooked "good ole boys"—headed by the judge who presided
at her trial—keep pestering her to sell the family farm.
I'm continuing to work on my first nonfiction book, The 10 Commandments of Self-Love, a motivational book on accepting ourselves as we are instead of obsessing over trying to look like some unrealistic actress or image we see in a magazine.
Meanwhile, my short story collection Dangerous Curves Ahead is available through Pearlsong Press (www.pearlsong.com). After its May 2004 publication, Dangerous Curves Ahead received a glowing review from Cindi Appel on the Fearless Books review website. Appel wrote:
Ballard doesn’t pull punches. She shows her heroines exhibiting ample will and tenacity to tell off those who would shame them into becoming something they aren’t just to blend in with society's narrow-minded notions of beauty.
To read the entire review, go to www.pearlsong.com/dangerouscurvesahead.htm. You can also read an excerpt from Dangerous Curves Ahead's title story, Dangerous Curves, by clicking on the title link in this sentence.
Pearlsong Press has also re-released my existing books, Wanted: One Groom, Nobody’s Perfect, His Brother’s Child and A Worthy Heir.
The Pearlsong Press edition
of Nobody's Perfect was called
"a charming, witty love story with a twist"
in the July 2004 Small Press Bookwatch section of Midwest Book Review.
Read the whole review at
www.pearlsong.com/nobodysperfect.htm, or an excerpt at
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edition of Abigail's Revenge has not yet been published,
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