News, updates, &
pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances
Nobody can make you feel inferior
without your consent.
Something to think
1. A persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable
idea or feeling;
broadly: compelling motivation (an obsession with profits).
2. something that causes an obsession.
I realize I'm pointing out a fact that most of us know, but the U.S.
is obsessed with weight. This came home to me, again, on July 1st, when I
went to a "July 4th"/birthday party at my son's home.
Out of the 30+ people who were there, one of them has had weight loss
surgery, one couple is on the Atkins diet, one woman was praising the
fantastic success she'd had on some program (I didn't take time to find
out which one, but I do know this woman and I know she doesn't need to
lose weight), my daughter-in-law has been losing for some time and is
almost to the point where she wants to be, and one woman had just had a
baby, but was complaining that she still had a "stomach" and how was
she going to get rid of it? And on and on and on it went!
I sat and listened, and believe it or not didn't say too much, although I
did wonder "out loud" a couple of times if this was all these people had
to talk about.
On the other hand, my son, Eric, who is 6'1" and has lost down to 153 lbs
by not doing anything except working hard and having the genetic makeup to
do so, got/gets all kind of flack because of his weight loss. The same
people who are obsessing over their own weight think Eric is sick because
he's losing weight. But I'll talk more about this in the Weighty
I thought it was interesting that the couple who are on the Atkins
diet―basically, only protein― brought a macaroni and cheese casserole.
They were feeding us what they wanted!
I also watched in amusement as huge quantities of food were consumed while
folks obsessed over "losing the weight."
Word From Pat
I hope everyone in the States had a
wonderful Fourth of July, our Day of Independence.
We had guests from Texas. My husband's mom, brother and nephew came on
Friday and left on Tuesday. We had a good visit. Millie, my M-I-L, had
never seen our granddaughter Mikayla, and had only seen her brother Shaun
once. So she enjoyed our day at my son's house on Saturday. It was Shaun's
sixth birthday, so we combined his birthday party and a Fourth of July
The weekend before that, I attended an ASDAH―Association for Size
Diversity and Health―conference near Cleveland, OH. Peggy Elam, Kristie
Agee and I rode up to Cleveland together. We had a really good time. I'd
like to invite you all to check out Kristie's website at:
She is a wonderful singer and has several size-friendly songs on her new
CD. You can listen to samples of the songs and purchase the CD from
her website or the
Pearlsong Press website (http://www.pearlsong.com/music.htm).
But I have to tell you―back-to-back fun weekends have taken it out of me.
I'm ready for some R & R on the quiet side!
And all this fun is why the newsletter is running a little late, so please
Everyone have a wonderful July!
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During the weekend of June 23-26, I
was at Case Western Reserve University, near Cleveland, OH, at an ASDAH
conference. ASDAH stands for Association for Size Diversity and Health,
which seems to be a concept that is so very hard for most folks to
I was so pleased to see such a variety in sizes at this group. These are
people, mostly professionals, who are involved in trying to educate the
world to the fact that health has nothing to do with size, but with
lifestyle, genetics, cultural influences, etc. But since the main focus is
on trying to educate the world that fat isn't of and by itself unhealthy,
I was surprised and pleased to see the variation from very small to very
large and all sizes in between at this conference.
Sometimes we think that it's just us "fat folks" who get the brunt of
other people's remarks about size, but something has recently happened
that reminded me that this isn't the case at all. My son, Eric, has been
married for four years. During those four years he's lost from around
210-220 pounds to 153 pounds. He's 6'1" in his bare feet, and now he looks
His weight loss has been slow, and not
something he's tried to do. But in being married, and acquiring a new job,
his schedule has changed. He's gone from eating a lot of fast foods during
his college days to working hard physically―he walks about 4 1/2 miles a
day at the Walgreen's store where he's a manager―and then coming home to a
good home-cooked meal.
Eric is one of those people whose weight will change with his lifestyle.
He was a fat baby, but a "skinny" child. Then he gained weight during high
school and college. Now he's lost it.
The point of my writing about this is the constant comments he gets about
his weight. His father is worried about him, and now that his grandmother
has seen him, so is she. It reminds me of the years when he was a skinny
kid. She and her mother were constantly trying to get me to buy medicine
to give him for parasites. They were convinced that he
had childhood worms! If he'd been fat, they and everyone else would have
been trying to get me to put him on a diet!
My sister Jerri has a daughter, Nikki, who is very thin. Even after having
four babies, she is thin with a very flat tummy. And people worry her to
death asking her if she's anorexic or bulimic or sick. She tells her mom
that she just gets so tired of it.
So, if we aren't in that perfect "middle-ground place" that has somehow
become the ideal place to be, weight-wise, then something has to be
"wrong" with us.
Some day, hopefully, we'll become a nation―a world―where we can grasp the
concept of Health at Every Size. Some day, hopefully, we'll let go
of our obsession to make everyone the same cookie-cutter,
middle-of-the-road, everybody-has-to-look-the-same ideal.
Some day soon, hopefully.
Communicate with Pat
via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
Pat's newest book, Abigail's Revenge, is featured on the Beautiful
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
An article on Pat has been
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
Calendar of Events
Pat will be a guest on the Health At
Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville
the fourth Monday of every month. The show is streamed live
over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays and now can also be
listened to live over your phone via the Mobile Broadcast Network.
Listen to the live
broadcast over the Internet at
To listen through
your cell phone or any other phone (home, office, etc.), go to
www. mymbn.com (the Mobile Broadcast
Network website) and register the phone numbers of your choice.
Registering is required to use this service, but there's no charge for it.
(Your usual long distance and/or cell phone charges will apply.) After
registering, call the Mobile Broadcast Network at 615-727-9201 from
a registered phone number. Select "1" from the menu options. Enter
the Radio Free Nashville code―9989―with your keypad. Listen and
For more on the show, check out
the show blog at
http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download edited
recordings of some of the shows at
Pat will spend the next few months promoting
Abigail's Revenge. She's in the process of setting up booksignings with
local Borders bookstores, and others.
You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with
Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.
discusses Pat's romance novels
Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors
Festival that are online at
The Pearlsong Letter
(Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums"
heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While
you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!
Existing and Upcoming
my fifth novel, is published! My publisher, Peggy Elam, pulled a few
rabbits out of the hat and the book debuted at the Southern Festival of
Books in Nashville last October. In fact, it was delivered to
the booth on Friday after the festival had started. That is where I saw my
first copy...hot off the press!
It's a Romantic Suspense,
and is different than any other novel I've written. It's also a good bit
Abigail Avery was falsely
convicted of the murder of her father and sent to prison when she was only
eighteen years old. The supposedly good citizens of Leaky Springs,
Mississippi were silent as an innocent young woman was orphaned, accused,
swiftly tried and locked away. Her only clue in the travesty of justice is
that a bunch of crooked "good ole boys"—headed by the judge who presided
at her trial—keep pestering her to sell the family farm.
Now, a decade later, Abigail's out of prison and heading back to Leaky
Springs. It won't be a pleasant homecoming. She's out for revenge on the
people who stole ten years of her life. Especially the judge.
Karen Sparks, owner of Top100womensites.com (and an avid reader), says
of Abigail's Revenge, "Injustice, romance and suspense with
page-turning flair! This is Ballard's greatest work. Her fragile, yet
beautifully big heroine is pushed to the edge with family tragedy, but
she's determined to fight back and avenge the injustice that cost her ten
years of her life. Ballard has created a rich romantic-suspense that you
cannot put down until it's finished."
here to go to the Pearlsong Press website page for Abigail's
Revenge. They're offering an advance sales special of free
shipping within the U.S. for copies sold through their online store.
I'm continuing to work on my
first nonfiction book, The 10 Commandments of Self-Love, a
motivational book on accepting ourselves as we are instead of obsessing
over trying to look like some unrealistic actress or image we see in a
Meanwhile, my short story
collection Dangerous Curves Ahead is available through
Pearlsong Press (www.pearlsong.com).
After its May 2004 publication, Dangerous Curves Ahead
received a glowing review from Cindi Appel on the Fearless Books
review website. Appel wrote:
Ballard doesn’t pull punches. She shows
her heroines exhibiting ample will and tenacity to tell off those who
would shame them into becoming something they aren’t just to blend in with
society's narrow-minded notions of beauty.
To read the entire review, go to
You can also read an excerpt from Dangerous Curves Ahead's title
Dangerous Curves, by clicking on the title link in this sentence.
Pearlsong Press has also
re-released my existing books, Wanted: One Groom, Nobody’s
Perfect, His Brother’s Child and A Worthy Heir.
The Pearlsong Press edition
of Nobody's Perfect was called
"a charming, witty love story with a twist"
in the July 2004 Small Press Bookwatch section of Midwest Book Review.
Read the whole review at
www.pearlsong.com/nobodysperfect.htm, or an excerpt at
I’m extremely happy that
my books are now available in both print and eBook format. (The eBook
edition of Abigail's Revenge has not yet been published,
however.) Please visit Pearlsong Press and check out all the options that
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while spreading the size acceptance message.
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