The Queen's Proclamation

 

 

 

July 2006
News, updates, & pronouncements
from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

Obsession
function: noun
1.
A persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling;
broadly: compelling motivation (
an obsession with profits).
 2. something that causes an obsession.


I realize I'm pointing out a fact that most of us know, but the U.S. is obsessed with weight. This came home to me, again, on July 1st, when I went to a "July 4th"/birthday party at my son's home.

Out of the 30+ people who were there, one of them has had weight loss surgery, one couple is on the Atkins diet, one woman was praising the fantastic success she'd had on some program (I didn't take time to find out which one, but I do know this woman and I know she doesn't need to lose weight), my daughter-in-law has been losing for some time and is almost to the point where she wants to be, and one woman had just had a baby, but was complaining that she still had a "stomach" and how was she going to get rid of it? And on and on and on it went!

I sat and listened, and believe it or not didn't say too much, although I did wonder "out loud" a couple of times if this was all these people had to talk about.

On the other hand, my son, Eric, who is 6'1" and has lost down to 153 lbs by not doing anything except working hard and having the genetic makeup to do so, got/gets all kind of flack because of his weight loss. The same people who are obsessing over their own weight think Eric is sick because he's losing weight. But I'll talk more about this in the Weighty Matters section.

I thought it was interesting that the couple who are on the Atkins diet―basically, only protein― brought a macaroni and cheese casserole. They were feeding us what they wanted!

I also watched in amusement as huge quantities of food were consumed while folks obsessed over "losing the weight."
 

 A Word From Pat

I hope everyone in the States had a wonderful Fourth of July, our Day of Independence.

We had guests from Texas. My husband's mom, brother and nephew came on Friday and left on Tuesday. We had a good visit. Millie, my M-I-L, had never seen our granddaughter Mikayla, and had only seen her brother Shaun once. So she enjoyed our day at my son's house on Saturday. It was Shaun's sixth birthday, so we combined his birthday party and a Fourth of July party.

The weekend before that, I attended an ASDAH―Association for Size Diversity and Health―conference near Cleveland, OH. Peggy Elam, Kristie Agee and I rode up to Cleveland together. We had a really good time. I'd like to invite you all to check out Kristie's website at:
http://www.kristieagee.com.

She is a wonderful singer and has several size-friendly songs on her new CD. You can listen to samples of the songs and purchase the CD from her website or the Pearlsong Press website (http://www.pearlsong.com/music.htm).

But I have to tell you―back-to-back fun weekends have taken it out of me. I'm ready for some R & R on the quiet side!

And all this fun is why the newsletter is running a little late, so please forgive me.

Everyone have a wonderful July!

                                               Love,

                                                                    Pat

Visit Pat's Place at www.patballard.com | Write me at patballard@bellsouth.net

 

Links About The Queen & Her Books

Pat's Place website | The Queen's Blog | About Pat Ballard | Dangerous Curves Ahead | The Best Man | Abigail's Revenge | Wanted: One Groom | Nobody's Perfect | His Brother's Child | A Worthy Heir | Pearlsong Press blog posts about Pat

Weighty Matters

During the weekend of June 23-26, I was at Case Western Reserve University, near Cleveland, OH, at an ASDAH conference. ASDAH stands for Association for Size Diversity and Health, which seems to be a concept that is so very hard for most folks to comprehend.

I was so pleased to see such a variety in sizes at this group. These are people, mostly professionals, who are involved in trying to educate the world to the fact that health has nothing to do with size, but with lifestyle, genetics, cultural influences, etc. But since the main focus is on trying to educate the world that fat isn't of and by itself unhealthy, I was surprised and pleased to see the variation from very small to very large and all sizes in between at this conference.

Sometimes we think that it's just us "fat folks" who get the brunt of other people's remarks about size, but something has recently happened that reminded me that this isn't the case at all. My son, Eric, has been married for four years. During those four years he's lost from around 210-220 pounds to 153 pounds. He's 6'1" in his bare feet, and now he looks very thin.

His weight loss has been slow, and not something he's tried to do. But in being married, and acquiring a new job, his schedule has changed. He's gone from eating a lot of fast foods during his college days to working hard physically―he walks about 4 1/2 miles a day at the Walgreen's store where he's a manager―and then coming home to a good home-cooked meal.

Eric is one of those people whose weight will change with his lifestyle. He was a fat baby, but a "skinny" child. Then he gained weight during high school and college. Now he's lost it.

The point of my writing about this is the constant comments he gets about his weight. His father is worried about him, and now that his grandmother has seen him, so is she. It reminds me of the years when he was a skinny kid. She and her mother were constantly trying to get me to buy medicine to give him for parasites. They were convinced that he
had childhood worms! If he'd been fat, they and everyone else would have been trying to get me to put him on a diet!

My sister Jerri has a daughter, Nikki, who is very thin. Even after having four babies, she is thin with a very flat tummy. And people worry her to death asking her if she's anorexic or bulimic or sick. She tells her mom that she just gets so tired of it.

So, if we aren't in that perfect "middle-ground place" that has somehow become the ideal place to be, weight-wise, then something has to be "wrong" with us.

Some day, hopefully, we'll become a nation―a world―where we can grasp the concept of Health at Every Size. Some day, hopefully, we'll let go of our obsession to make everyone the same cookie-cutter, middle-of-the-road, everybody-has-to-look-the-same ideal.

Some day soon, hopefully.

 

Communicate with Pat via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/blog/id/AC8LT66HFJQ1Y/ref=cm_blog_blog/102-0429066-5275365

Pat's newest book, Abigail's Revenge, is featured on the Beautiful Portal website: http://www.beautifulportal.com/news.php?item.900034.8
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
http://www.venusimaging.com/Magazine/2005/decjanrealistic/jennifer.htm

 An article on Pat has been posted at:
http://eastmanpublishing.com/epextra/articles/eparticle1007.htm.
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
http://eastmanpublishing.com/epextra/articles/eparticle1011.htm 

Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
http://www.lonniecruse.blogspot.com.

Calendar of Events

Pat will be a guest on the Health At Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville the fourth Monday of every month. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays and now can also be listened to live over your phone via the Mobile Broadcast Network.

Listen to the live broadcast over the Internet at http://www.radiofreenashville.org/.

To listen through your cell phone or any other phone (home, office, etc.), go to www. mymbn.com (the Mobile Broadcast Network website) and register the phone numbers of your choice. Registering is required to use this service, but there's no charge for it. (Your usual long distance and/or cell phone charges will apply.) After registering, call the Mobile Broadcast Network at 615-727-9201 from a registered phone number. Select "1" from the menu options. Enter the Radio Free Nashville code―9989―with your keypad. Listen and enjoy!

For more on the show, check out the show blog at http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download edited recordings of some of the shows at www.pearlsong.com/audio.htm.

Pat will spend the next few months promoting Abigail's Revenge. She's in the process of setting up booksignings with local Borders bookstores, and others.

You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.

Show #1 discusses Pat's romance novels
http://www.wcrsradio.org/RadioStage/size/SIZE051.mp3

Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
http://www.wcrsradio.org/RadioStage/size/SIZE052.mp3

And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors Festival that are online at The Queen's Proclamation blog and The Pearlsong Letter blog. (Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums" heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!
 

Books Existing and Upcoming

Abigail's Revenge, my fifth novel, is published! My publisher, Peggy Elam, pulled a few rabbits out of the hat and the book debuted at the Southern Festival of Books in Nashville last October. In fact, it was delivered to the booth on Friday after the festival had started. That is where I saw my first copy...hot off the press!

It's a Romantic Suspense, and is different than any other novel I've written. It's also a good bit longer.

Abigail Avery was falsely convicted of the murder of her father and sent to prison when she was only eighteen years old. The supposedly good citizens of Leaky Springs, Mississippi were silent as an innocent young woman was orphaned, accused, swiftly tried and locked away. Her only clue in the travesty of justice is that a bunch of crooked "good ole boys"—headed by the judge who presided at her trial—keep pestering her to sell the family farm.

Now, a decade later, Abigail's out of prison and heading back to Leaky Springs. It won't be a pleasant homecoming. She's out for revenge on the people who stole ten years of her life. Especially the judge.

Karen Sparks, owner of Top100womensites.com (and an avid reader), says of Abigail's Revenge, "Injustice, romance and suspense with page-turning flair! This is Ballard's greatest work. Her fragile, yet beautifully big heroine is pushed to the edge with family tragedy, but she's determined to fight back and avenge the injustice that cost her ten years of her life. Ballard has created a rich romantic-suspense that you cannot put down until it's finished."

Click here to go to the Pearlsong Press website page for Abigail's Revenge. They're offering an advance sales special of free shipping within the U.S. for copies sold through their online store.

I'm continuing to work on my first nonfiction book, The 10 Commandments of Self-Love, a motivational book on accepting ourselves as we are instead of obsessing over trying to look like some unrealistic actress or image we see in a magazine.

Meanwhile, my short story collection Dangerous Curves Ahead is available through Pearlsong Press (www.pearlsong.com). After its May 2004 publication, Dangerous Curves Ahead received a glowing review from Cindi Appel on the Fearless Books review website. Appel wrote:

Ballard doesn’t pull punches. She shows her heroines exhibiting ample will and tenacity to tell off those who would shame them into becoming something they aren’t just to blend in with society's narrow-minded notions of beauty.

To read the entire review, go to www.pearlsong.com/dangerouscurvesahead.htm. You can also read an excerpt from Dangerous Curves Ahead's title story, Dangerous Curves, by clicking on the title link in this sentence.

Pearlsong Press has also re-released my existing books, Wanted: One Groom, Nobody’s Perfect, His Brother’s Child and A Worthy Heir.

The Pearlsong Press edition of Nobody's Perfect was called "a charming, witty love story with a twist" in the July 2004 Small Press Bookwatch section of Midwest Book Review. Read the whole review at www.pearlsong.com/nobodysperfect.htm, or an excerpt at
www.pearlsong.com/nobodys_excerpt.htm.

I’m extremely happy that my books are now available in both print and eBook format. (The eBook edition of Abigail's Revenge  has not yet been published, however.) Please visit Pearlsong Press and check out all the options that are available.
 

Ask your local  library to stock Pat's books, allowing many others to enjoy them
while spreading the size acceptance message.

 

Book Contest

Register to win a free copy of the Pat Ballard book of your choice at Top 100 Women Sites: http://www.top100womensites.com/contest.htm.
 

Newsletter Archives

Read previous issues of The Queen's Proclamation at http://www.pearlsong.com/newsletterarchives.htm.
 

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