The Queen's Proclamation




November 2006
News, updates, & pronouncements
from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

If "ifs" and "ands" were pots and pans there'd be no work for tinkers.
Ancient Proverb

Recently I saw a MetLife commercial that reminded me that there is a big "if" smack dab in the middle of "life." I'm sure I've thought of this before, and I'm sure all of you have, too, but for some reason the significance of this hit home to me after seeing the ad.
I've spent some time thinking about this. Not the "what if I'd done so-and-so, my life would be different" kind of thinking, but deeper thinking on the subject.

Is it really a coincidence that there is this "if" in the middle of the word that means so much to us? Life.

By the time we've become adults, most of us are well aware that there are no guarantees in life. As John Lennon said, "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." And for most of us, this turns out to be the case.

Now before everyone falls into the depths of despair, I want to put a positive curve on this. Yes, we can plan our futures, and we should. Yes, we can and should plan the futures, to a certain extent, of our children―make plans for college, etc.

But the bottom line is, things happen. Things like Katrina. Things like sicknesses and unexpected trips to the ER. Things change.

So, in order to deal with the "ifs" in life, I'm trying to learn to enjoy one day at a time. Today, I will take time to smell the roses. Today, I will take time to hug my spouse and my children. Today, I will take time to be nice to my neighbor or the stranger on the street.

When we live each day to the fullest, the "ifs" in life don't seem so seem so big.

 A Word From Pat

Wow! October has been a very full month for me. Two weeks ago my husband, Joe, and I went to Ashville, NC and toured the Biltmore Estates. It's the largest privately owned home in the U.S. It is mindboggling to think about individuals living in a house that size, especially in the late 1800s. Even back then, it was wired for electricity and had a heated swimming pool in the basement! Most of the bedrooms had bathrooms with running water. I'm talking a sink, tub and commode.

After one day at Biltmore, we got up the next morning and drove over the Blue Ridge Parkway and came through the Smoky Mountains, heading back to Nashville. The fall leaves were beautiful, and the views from the Parkway were awesome! It was a relaxing little three-day trip.

The following week I worked at the office where I fill in sometimes. Then this past weekend Joe and I kept our grandkids, Shaun and Kayla, from mid-day Saturday until around 2:30 Sunday afternoon. Eric and Tiffany (their parents) came to get them and stayed for several hours. The weather was beautiful, so we got to play outside on both days.

That Saturday evening we took the kids to see a new animated movie, Open Season. I think I enjoyed it more than the children. About an hour into the movie, Kayla whispered to me, "Mimi, this is taking forever!" Soon after that, Shaun started squirming and asking "When can we go to your house?" But we made it through the movie, then went to McDonald's for food and fun.

Everyone have a wonderful November, and those in the U.S. have a great and safe Thanksgiving.



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Abigail's Revenge
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Nobody's Perfect
His Brother's Child
A Worthy Heir
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Weighty Matters

I had planned to feature a series of articles by Sandy Szwarc in this section for the next few issues. Sandy is one of the most wonderful, commonsensical writers on the subject of weight that I know of.

But when I told her what I was doing, Sandy mentioned that the website her articles are on has gone through some editing and there are now some inaccuracies in the articles. So for that reason, I'm not going to use the articles in this section. But I still highly recommend that you read them.

In 1998, NOW―the National Organization for Women―designated October 18 as Love Your Body Day. Love Your Body Day promotes the importance of positive body images for women and girls. There is a lot of wonderfully encouraging information on their website,

So, since October 18 has come and gone, I'd like to designate every day from now on as "Love Your Body Day."

Each day when you look in the mirror don't say, "I'm too tall, too short, too thin or too fat." Or any of the other many things that we love to say about and against ourselves. Just say, "Body, I love you because you're the vehicle that carries ME through each day. Thank you for that, and I love you just the way you are."

Reader Review of the Month

Editor's Note: We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation. Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and email us at proclamation @ to let us know, and we'll consider yours for inclusion in The QP

This month's Reader Review of A Worthy Heir was posted at & by C.L. Yanda.

This book is about self-love for every woman out there, no matter what size clothes she wears. When self-confident, beautiful Pamela Spencer makes up her mind to do something ―or in this case to not only do something but to win someone's heart―she does it. After all, Pamela [as well as] Reese's grandmother, Fiona, definitely know what kind of woman Reese needs and is really attracted to. And it's not skinny little Sharon!

...When Pamela leaves Reese and files for a divorce, she writes him a letter ..."I'm sorry I played along with Fiona and tricked you into marrying me. But now you'll have your freedom back. Freedom to marry Sharon, like she said you wanted to do. She said you two had always loved each other and that you'd be married now, if not for me."

I don't know how many men have told me they weren't interested in a stick or bones, but this book illustrates there are many of them out there who are gorgeous, successful, and strong. I don't know a man alive who wouldn't choose Marilyn Monroe over a size "0."

I enjoyed this author's writing so much that I am requesting my local library look into purchasing some of her books, as well as my favorite bookstore keeping some on their shelves. Hopefully, they'll listen. Pat Ballard has a voice that deserves to be heard and listened to.

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Pat's newest book, Abigail's Revenge, is featured on the Beautiful Portal website:
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:

 An article on Pat has been posted at:
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at 

Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at

Calendar of Events

Pat regularly guests on the Health At Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville. Check the show blog at for mentions of Pat's next guest appearance. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays and now can also be listened to live over your phone via the Mobile Broadcast Network.

Listen to the live broadcast over the Internet at

To listen through your cell phone or any other phone (home, office, etc.), go to www. (the Mobile Broadcast Network website) and register the phone numbers of your choice. Registering is required to use this service, but there's no charge for it. (Your usual long distance and/or cell phone charges will apply.) After registering, call the Mobile Broadcast Network at 615-727-9201 from a registered phone number. Select "1" from the menu options. Enter the Radio Free Nashville code―9989―with your keypad. Listen and enjoy!

For more on the show, check out the show blog at You can also listen to or download edited recordings of some of the shows at

Pat will spend the next few months promoting Abigail's Revenge. She's in the process of setting up booksignings with local Borders bookstores, and others.

You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.

Show #1 discusses Pat's romance novels

Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality

And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors Festival that are online at The Queen's Proclamation blog and The Pearlsong Letter blog. (Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums" heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!

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