News, updates, &
pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances
Nobody can make you feel inferior
without your consent.
Something to think
Love and kindness are never
They always make a difference.
They bless the one who receives them,
and they bless you,
Barbara De Angelis
I've been thinking a lot about the upcoming holidays that are
supposed to be filled with love, warmth and happiness, and about
how we get lost in the stress of hurrying and scurrying around
to "get it all done" so we can have a happy, warm family
gathering. But by the time we get to the gathering point we're
so stressed out that we can barely stand each other.
And I've been remembering how Christmas was during my childhood.
There is one particular Christmas that I remember more than any
As usual, my parents didn't have a lot of money to spend on Christmas, and
having six children made it even harder. But this particular year, times
were tougher than usual.
My mom ordered our Christmas presents from a well-known mail order
catalog, so she could charge them. Christmas got closer and closer, but no
package arrived. And to our greatest fear, on Christmas Eve the mail ran,
but no package was delivered.
It seems that our mom was at her best in these times of turmoil. She
gathered all of us older kids together and said, "Now, each of you has
something that you know your brothers and sisters want. This would be the
perfect time to wrap it up and give it to them."
So we all got busy, wrapping one of our "treasured" toys up to give to
each other. It became a wonderful game to hide and wrap things up and not
let each other see what was going on.
Our mom got the small children together and made things for us older kids.
For years I kept a carving from a bar of Ivory Soap that she helped one of
my sisters make for me. I think I still have it somewhere.
We even made a "gift" for our cousin Sheila, who was coming to my
grandparents' house, which was just across the road from us. I think her
gift was a doll that Mom made from a potato.
That Christmas Eve night we opened our gifts and laughed so hard our sides
hurt. And the joy and love that we felt flowing around us made us forget
that our "Christmas" was stuck somewhere in the U.S. mail.
This is what Christmas―or whichever holiday you celebrate―should be about.
It should be about giving, not getting. It should be about being close to
those we love, not about how much was spent and who got a better gift.
So during the next few weeks, slow down occasionally and think about how
much you love the people in your life. And let them know that you love
And remember, as Denis Waitley said, "Happiness cannot be traveled to,
owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of
living every minute with love, grace and gratitude."
Word From Pat
I hope November has been
as fun-filled for you as it was for me.
November is my husband, Joe's, birthday. Our daughter-in-law, Tiffany,
fixed a wonderful meal for us for Joe's birthday, so we spent a very
rewarding evening with Eric, Tiffany, and the grandkids.
On Thanksgiving day Joe and I left Nashville at 6:15 in the morning and
drove 365 miles to my uncle's and aunt's house in Mississippi. We got
there just before 12:00 noon. We had a beautiful day with family. In all
we had fifty siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins who came. My heart will
hum for a long time on this.
I guess we'll head for Texas for Christmas. That drive will be 660 miles,
so it will take a little longer! But we'll get to see more family, so the
drive will be well worth it.
Everyone have a wonderful, safe and happy holiday season.
Visit Pat's Place at
www.patballard.com | Write me at
from Pearlsong Press:
Pat's first nonfiction book,
10 Steps to Loving Your
(No Matter What Size You Are)
As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a
societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter
What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to
heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size
diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.
Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.
More info at the
Pearlsong Press website.
(All copies of 10 Steps
purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)
About The Queen & Her Books
Pat's Place website
The Queen's Blog
About Pat Ballard
Dangerous Curves Ahead
The Best Man
Wanted: One Groom
His Brother's Child
A Worthy Heir
Pearlsong Press blog posts about Pat
We've heard for years that we gain
around 5 pounds during the holidays. This is said as if each and every one
of us will gain 5 pounds. Period.
Well, recent studies show that most of those who gain any weight
during the holidays only gain one pound.
But I say, it's the holidays. Who cares? Enjoy!!
“Nothing would be
more tiresome than eating and drinking
if God had not made them a pleasure as well as a necessity.”
Reader Review of the
We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation.
Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and
email us at proclamation @ pearlsong.com to let us know, and we'll
consider yours for inclusion in The QP.
The following review of
10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) was
on the Amazon.com website by Judith Matz, author of
The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance & Self-Care.
As a therapist, I know that the toughest
part for most women in their journey to make peace with food is learning
how to build a better body image. 10 Steps to Loving Your Body
is a fabulous resource for doing just that. Author Pat Ballard offers her
own wisdom, along with inspirational quotes from people such as Gilda
Radner and Wayner Dyer. One of my favorites: "Begin challenging your
assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them
off every once in awhile or the light won't come in." (Alan Alda)
If you are struggling with weight/body image issues, keep this book on
your nightstand or in your purse, and open its pages often. It will be
like having a kind and gentle best friend with you who wants what's best
for you and knows how to help you get there.
a interview with Pat at The F-word (Food. Fat. Feminism.)
Communicate with Pat
via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
Pat's romantic suspense novel Abigail's Revenge is featured on the Beautiful
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
An article on Pat has been
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
Calendar of Events
New from Pearlsong Press—Pat's
latest (and first nonfiction) book, 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No
Matter What Size You Are).
See http://www.pearlsong.com/10steps.htm to order.
All copies purchased directly from the Pearlsong Press website will be
autographed by the author.
Hear Pat on
the air at Radio Free Nashville! Listen to or download the mp3
recording of Pat's June 23, 2008 guest appearance on the Health
At Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville
by going to
Pat regularly guests on Radio Free Nashville's
Health At Every Size
show, which airs every Monday morning.
She's usually in the studio on the fourth Monday of the month. The show is streamed live
over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can
also now subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the
mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player)
via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper
lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your
Listen to the live
broadcasts over the Internet at
http://www.radiofreenashville.org/. You can also listen to
the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM. See the
Health At Every Size show website or the
Radio Free Nashville website
for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show
live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel
For more on the show, check out
the show blog at
http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download recordings of some of the shows,
including several with Pat, at
You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with
Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.
discusses Pat's romance novels
Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors
Festival that are online at
The Pearlsong Letter
(Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums"
heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While
you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!
Give someone a good
read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!
Read previous issues
of The Queen's Proclamation at
Did someone forward this newsletter
to you, and you'd like to sign up to receive future issues yourself? Use
the form below to subscribe.
Already a subscriber, but want to
remove your email address from the Queen's mailing list? You can also use
the form below to unsubscribe — just fill it in, select "Remove" from the
drop-down menu, and click "Go!"
Queen's Proclamation is published by Pearlsong Press.
58065 │ Nashville, TN
©2008 Pearlsong Press