News, updates, &
pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances
Nobody can make you feel inferior
without your consent.
Something to think
Memory is a child walking
along a seashore.
You never can tell what small pebble it will pick up
and store away among its treasured things."
Knowing that I
was planning to keep my grandkids, Shaun, 8, and Kayla, 6, this
weekend, I was feeling a little regret that I don't have any
video games or computer games for them to play. We have
satellite TV with any possible cartoon channel they could
want―yet I wondered if I was not being a good grandmother by not
having all the latest technology for them.
Then sanity returned to me and I remembered that I want my house
to be a house of memories. Memories that come from spending
one-on-one time with their grandparents. And by not having those
built-in babysitters I'm forced to be more creative in coming up
with ideas of how to spend my time with them.
So Saturday night Joe, "Pawpaw," built a fire in my woodburning stove and
we roasted wieners and had an outside picnic, even though it was after
dark and the temperature was in the low 50s. We had hotdogs with all the
trimmings, plus Joe put a can of chili on the fire and cooked it in the
can. He and Shaun enjoyed the chili.
During one of the quieter moments Kayla said, "I love the sound of the
I added, "And listen to the wind rustle the leaves in the trees."
She said, "I'm calling this our wilderness picnic!"
After the hotdogs were finished, we roasted marshmallows. Shaun really got
into that. He soon became my official "roaster."
The next morning about 11:00 the kids and I were back outside. As soon as
the leaves start falling, Shaun and Kayla want to come to Mimi and
Pawpaw's and play in the leaves. One of the games we play is picking up
huge handfulls of leaves and throwing them on each other's heads. So that
was one of the first things we did. We all looked like "Swamp Thing"
before it was over.
Then their parents―my son, Eric, and my daughter-in-law, Tiffany―came over
around 1 p.m. and after lunch we went back outside and built another fire
and roasted more marshmallows.
At one point, while Shaun played baseball with Eric, Kayla was swinging
and looking up into the trees and said, "This is just the best house
My heart filled with the knowledge that it had been a memory-making
weekend. Not just for them, but for me, also.
To live in hearts we leave behind
Is not to die.
Word From Pat
I have worked fulltime at
my "part-time" job since I wrote the last newsletter. That's the reason
I hope everyone had a good October. My publisher, Peggy Elam,
Bunkie Lynn, author of The Big Girls' Guide To Life, and
I teamed up and had a booth at the Southern Festival of Books the
weekend of Oct. 10-12. We had a 90-minute panel on Friday,titled "Tell Me
Why I Should Love My Body."
We spent the rest of the weekend meeting people and selling our books. It
was my most successuful SFB so far.
You can see photos and listen to our talks at our Love Your Body Blog,
As I mentioned in the October issue of the newsletter, I'm in the
November 24, 2008 edition of First magazine. It should
still be on the shelves at most grocery stores, Wal-Mart, K-Mart, etc.
First is usually on the shelves right before you start through
the checkout lane.
Everyone have a wonderful November, and for those in the U.S.―have a
Visit Pat's Place at
www.patballard.com | Write me at
from Pearlsong Press:
Pat's first nonfiction book,
10 Steps to Loving Your
(No Matter What Size You Are)
As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a
societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter
What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to
heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size
diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.
Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.
More info at the
Pearlsong Press website.
(All copies of 10 Steps
purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)
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Losing the Weight Stigma
by ROBIN MARANTZ HENIG
The public-health crusade of the moment is a no-holds-barred war on
obesity. Those waging it don’t have time for subtlety. When Senator
Christopher Dodd introduced the Obesity Prevention Act of 2008 this
summer, he called obesity “a medical emergency of hurricanelike
proportions” that is wreaking havoc “on our families, on our society and
on our health care system.”
But some activists and academics, part of a growing social movement known
as fat acceptance, suggest that we rethink this war—as well as our
definition of health itself. Fat-acceptance activists insist you can’t
assume someone is unhealthy just because he’s fat, any more than you can
assume someone is healthy just because he’s slim. (They deliberately use
the word “fat” as a way to reclaim it, much the way some gay rights
activists use the word “queer.”) Rather, they say, we should focus on
health measurements that are more meaningful than numbers on a scale. This
viewpoint received a boost in August when The Archives of Internal
Medicine reported that fully half of overweight adults and one-third
of the obese had normal blood pressure, cholesterol, triglycerides and
blood sugar—indicating a normal risk for heart disease and diabetes,
conditions supposedly caused by being fat.
Read the rest of the article:
Reader Review of the
We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation.
Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and
email us at proclamation @ pearlsong.com to let us know, and we'll
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The following review of
10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) was
on the Amazon.com website by Judith Matz, author of
The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance & Self-Care.
As a therapist, I know that the toughest
part for most women in their journey to make peace with food is learning
how to build a better body image. 10 Steps to Loving Your Body
is a fabulous resource for doing just that. Author Pat Ballard offers her
own wisdom, along with inspirational quotes from people such as Gilda
Radner and Wayner Dyer. One of my favorites: "Begin challenging your
assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them
off every once in awhile or the light won't come in." (Alan Alda)
If you are struggling with weight/body image issues, keep this book on
your nightstand or in your purse, and open its pages often. It will be
like having a kind and gentle best friend with you who wants what's best
for you and knows how to help you get there.
a interview with Pat at The F-word (Food. Fat. Feminism.)
Communicate with Pat
via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
Pat's romantic suspense novel Abigail's Revenge is featured on the Beautiful
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
An article on Pat has been
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
Calendar of Events
New from Pearlsong Press—Pat's
latest (and first nonfiction) book, 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No
Matter What Size You Are).
See http://www.pearlsong.com/10steps.htm to order.
All copies purchased directly from the Pearlsong Press website will be
autographed by the author.
Hear Pat on
the air at Radio Free Nashville! Listen to or download the mp3
recording of Pat's June 23, 2008 guest appearance on the Health
At Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville
by going to
Pat regularly guests on Radio Free Nashville's
Health At Every Size
show, which airs every Monday morning.
She's usually in the studio on the fourth Monday of the month. The show is streamed live
over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can
also now subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the
mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player)
via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper
lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your
Listen to the live
broadcasts over the Internet at
http://www.radiofreenashville.org/. You can also listen to
the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM. See the
Health At Every Size show website or the
Radio Free Nashville website
for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show
live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel
For more on the show, check out
the show blog at
http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download recordings of some of the shows,
including several with Pat, at
You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with
Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.
discusses Pat's romance novels
Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors
Festival that are online at
The Pearlsong Letter
(Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums"
heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While
you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!
Give someone a good
read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!
Top 100 Women Sites (http://www.top100womensites.com/contest.htm)
has been purchased by someone who is in the process of changing the site a
little. I'm not sure if he is going to continue featuring the book
keep you informed.
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