News, updates, &
pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances
Nobody can make you feel inferior
without your consent.
Something to think
So oftentimes it happens
that we live our lives in chains.
And we never even know we have the key."
The Eagles ("Already Gone")
This line from
the Eagles' song "Already Gone" has always inspired me, because
I think it is so true in most of our lives.
Now I know there are exceptions to any rule, and that goes for
life's hard knocks as well. But most of the time when we feel
like we're chained to a situation that we can't get out of, we
really do have the key to unlock those chains. All we have to do
is get our minds to work to find the key.
As I was thinking about that this morning, I remembered a letter
exchange I had a few years ago. A young woman had written to me
after reading one of my books, and told me how much she enjoyed
the book, but that she just didn't think she would ever be able
to accept the body she was in.
I wrote back and "waxed eloquent" on how it was her body and she
should learn to love it.
She wrote back to me, actually trying to convince me that she
couldn't and, in essence, shouldn't have to learn to love
I didn't reply to her letter because I realized she was content
in her misery. She wasn't looking for the key to unlock her
chains of self-loathing and unhappiness.
If I had written back to her, I would have told her that she has
three choices. She can spend the rest of her life starving
herself, trying to become a size that her body wasn't
genetically programmed to be; or she can learn to accept and
even love that body; or she can spend her life complaining about
her situation, while making herself and everyone around her
And basically, that covers about any life situation we find
ourselves in. We have the same choices.
Maya Angelou wrote, "If you don't like something, change it. If
you can't change it, change your attitude."
Word From Pat
Happy October, everyone!
As many of you already know, this is one of my most loved months. So I'm
humming with contentment, just like the bumblebees that are gorging
themselves on my lingering flowers from summer.
My life has been fairly simple since we last talked. I've worked again at
a "real job" for two weeks at the place where I'm on call, or as they say,
"their call girl." But after Tuesday I'll be able to get back to my really
important stuff, like working on my next two books.
This coming weekend, Oct.1012, I'll be at the Southern Festival
of Books here in Nashville, along with my publisher, Peggy Elam,
and Bunkie Lynn, author of The Big Girls' Guide To Life.
We'll have a panel presentation on Friday at 3:30 p.m. The title of
our panel is "Tell Me Why I Should Love My Body." We'll each speak
for about 20 minutes, then there will be a question and answer session.
Bunkie will lead the session with a humorous talk about how we feel about
our bodies, then Peggy, a licensed psychologist, will talk about why we
should love our bodies, and I will follow with how to love our bodies.
Then Bunkie and I will sign books. You can read about the event and see a
photo of the three of us at:
http://www.pearlsongpress.com/peggy_elam_phd/. Who knows, we may take
this show on the road!
If you remember, in the last newsletter I talked about being a part of an
upcoming article in First magazine. The issue will be on the
stands from Nov. 3 until Nov. 24, 20008. I'm sure I'll send out a
reminder in the next QP.
Until then, everyone have a wonderful October.
Visit Pat's Place at
www.patballard.com | Write me at
from Pearlsong Press:
Pat's first nonfiction book,
10 Steps to Loving Your
(No Matter What Size You Are)
As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a
societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter
What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to
heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size
diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.
Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.
More info at the
Pearlsong Press website.
(All copies of 10 Steps
purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)
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One step at a time, we may be getting there!
Can you believe this? Women are starving themselves to be thin, but now,
in lieu of a facelift, they're adding leftover liposuction fat to their
faces because―as we all know―fat baby faces look younger!
The "New" Plastic Surgery: In Which Fat Becomes The New Black
As "The New New Face" explains, the face lift has transformed over the
past decade. It used to be about pulling and tightening but now is all
about―are you ready for this?―fat. In describing the adolescent ideal
pursued by today's plastic surgery client, the mag says, "As thin as
[teen's] bodies are, they still haven't entirely shed the baby fat in
their faces. This, it seems, is what women in their forties and fifties
are now after: baby fat." Babies certainly do look young! And they have
oodles of fat.
Read the rest of the article from The Huffington Post:
Reader Review of the
We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation.
Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and
email us at proclamation @ pearlsong.com to let us know, and we'll
consider yours for inclusion in The QP.
The following review of
10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) was
on the Amazon.com website by Susan Schulherr, author of
Eating Disorders for Dummies.
If you're a woman, odds are you're not happy
with your body. You probably can't remember when you weren't at war with
your belly or your thighs. (Men are beginning to catch up with their own
versions of body discontent.) Western culture provides you with a steady
stream of images and advice about an often unattainable "right" way to
look, feeding your feelings that you just aren't acceptable as you are.
Enter Pat Ballard with 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size
You Are) to supply a badly needed alternative voice! Ballard's
easy-to-read, easy-to-use volume is like having your own personal coach
and cheerleader for ending the warfare and making peace with the body you
have. She's out in front to show you the way, behind you to nudge you
forward, and beside you offering support and encouragement for every step
(all 10!) of your journey. She accomplishes this with guidelines (" . . .
our bodies know what they want to look like"), worksheets to practice new
ways of thinking and behaving (". . .look for 10 good things about [your]
body and try to develop them"), and the greatest collection of
inspirational quotes for body-love and general self-respect you're likely
to find anywhere (for example, from Gloria Steinem, "Each individual
woman's body demands to be accepted on it's own terms." Or, from an
unknown author, "It's not who you are that holds you back; it's who you
think you're not.")
10 Steps is your body's best friend in pocket form. I'm delighted to have
it on hand to recommend―personally and professionally―to anyone
struggling with body image and the inkling that it's better to embrace
than fight the one-and-only body you have.
a interview with Pat at The F-word (Food. Fat. Feminism.)
Communicate with Pat
via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
Pat's romantic suspense novel Abigail's Revenge is featured on the Beautiful
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
An article on Pat has been
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
Calendar of Events
New from Pearlsong PressPat's
latest (and first nonfiction) book, 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No
Matter What Size You Are).
See http://www.pearlsong.com/10steps.htm to order.
All copies purchased directly from the Pearlsong Press website will be
autographed by the author.
See Pat at the
Southern Festival of
in Nashville, TN the second weekend in October! She will be in the Pearlsong Press booth with publisher
Peggy Elam, Ph.D. and author Bunkie Lynn. Pat, Peggy & Bunkie
are on the festival schedule Friday afternoon (Oct. 10, 2008) at
3:30 p.m. for the joint presentation "Tell Me Why I Should Love My
Hear Pat on
the air at Radio Free Nashville! Listen to or download the mp3
recording of Pat's June 23, 2008 guest appearance on the Health
At Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville
by going to
Pat regularly guests on Radio Free Nashville's
Health At Every Size
show, which airs every Monday morning.
She's usually in the studio on the fourth Monday of the month. The show is streamed live
over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can
also now subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the
mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player)
via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper
lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your
Listen to the live
broadcasts over the Internet at
http://www.radiofreenashville.org/. You can also listen to
the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM. See the
Health At Every Size show website or the
Radio Free Nashville website
for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show
live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel
For more on the show, check out
the show blog at
http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download recordings of some of the shows,
including several with Pat, at
You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with
Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.
discusses Pat's romance novels
Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors
Festival that are online at
The Pearlsong Letter
(Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums"
heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While
you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!
Give someone a good
read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!
Top 100 Women Sites (http://www.top100womensites.com/contest.htm)
has been purchased by someone who is in the process of changing the site a
little. I'm not sure if he is going to continue featuring the book
keep you informed.
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