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The Wolf You Feed
An elder Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them,
"A fight is going on inside me. It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance,
self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
"The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
"This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too," he added.
The grandchildren thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied..."The one you feed."
An old Native American proverb
A few weeks ago as Peggy and I did the Health At Every Size radio show, we discussed body hatred, body love, forgiving our bodies for not being what we want, etc., and I made the statement that "the emotion you feed is the one that will grow."
I'm not sure if I formulated my conviction on this subject from the old proverb above, which I saw in an email a few years ago, or from some other source. I'd love to believe it's my own original thought, but are there really any original thoughts? But do I know it is a fact that the emotions we feed are the ones that grow.
So what emotion are you feeding?
Are you one of those people who has trained your brain to go immediately to the negative side of any subject that comes up? I'm going to use my husband as an example of this. I'm not talking behind his back. He'll be the first to agree with me.
We're all familiar with the "is the glass half full or half empty" analogy of a positive person or a negative person. Well, Joe's glass is normally not just half empty, but three-fourths empty. In fact, on a really good day, he'll say, "I'm almost happy." But he'll never commit to being totally happy.
Sometimes when I bring up a new idea or some thought that I think is good, he'll reply with, "Well, the trouble with that is—" I've brought this to his attention so much that it's become a joke with us.
I've watched him and others frantically search for the negative side of a subject if it's just a little too positive for them. They're feeding the negative emotions.
Or are you one of those people who go directly to the positive side of just about any subject? Is your glass almost always half full? I'll use myself as an example of this.
Just as a clue, I've been recently dubbed "Pollyanna" and accused of keeping my Pollyanna head in a certain orifice of my body. Actually I gave myself the name, but many of my family members jumped on it just a little too quickly.
I will frantically search for the positive aspect of any subject. I literally hate a doomsday, the-sky-is-falling, nothing-is-going-to-work-out-okay attitude. So I feed the positive emotion.
And, yes, I realize that this can be done to the point of losing touch with reality—but I sure am happy here in my world!
My point is that our brains will respond to how we train them to think. Whatever emotion we feed our subconscious, it will feed that emotion back to us.
Of course there are health problems that can cause some of us to have bouts with depression, or life situations that are really hard to deal with, so I would never try to tell someone to "just think your way out of your situation" if you do need help.
But if you're a healthy individual who is feeding the negative emotion, why not try feeding the positive one and see how much better you feel?
Instead of complaining about the clouds, remind yourself that the sun is shining right above those clouds.
Instead of telling yourself that "this is going to be a bad day," try telling yourself that "something good can happen today."
Instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out all the parts of your body that you don't like, find some of the things you do like and concentrate on them.
Feed those upbeat, feel-good, positive emotions.
Well, here I am, again running late with the newsletter. I hope everyone had a wonderful November.
Husband Joe and I went to Mississippi for Thanksgiving and had a really good trip and wonderful visit with family. But I seemed to have brought back a vicious bug from the Magnolia State. It's a head and throat invasion!
On November 20th Joe had a lithotripsy procedure (laser blasting) done on his right kidney. He had a 12mm stone. He had to have a stent put in from his kidney to his bladder to keep any of the small stones from blocking his pipes—or, as the doctor put it, causing a log jam. Anyway, he went back last Tuesday to the doctor to make arrangements to take out the stent. The doctor X-rayed to make sure the stones were gone—and all they had done was break the 12mm stone into two pieces. Now he had a 7mm and a 4mm stone. So this past Friday he had to go back and have the procedure done again.
He had bladder spasms the first time and was in a lot of pain for a few hours, but the second lithotripsy went much, much better. I guess we'll find out next week if the stones are broken up or if he has to go back again. But for now he's feeling okay and going back to work Monday.
All this new technology is just amazing to me. I wonder if in a few years all surgery will be done by laser and no knives will be needed. I'm real okay with that!
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