News, updates, &
pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances
Nobody can make you feel inferior
without your consent.
Something to think
Few are those who see with
their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.
As children, most of us are taught how we're supposed to act,
what we're supposed to believe, who we're supposed to associate
with and even how we're supposed to think. We're taught this by
our parents/guardians, our schools, our colleges and our
Now basically this isn't a bad thing, because children need
guidance, direction, and rules. But it's my belief that while
we're being given all this guidance, most of us aren't taught as
children that it's okay to think our own thoughts occasionally.
To look at things a little differently than what's being taught.
So we grow into adulthood trained to only think what we're told
"What would my parents think if I did this?"
"How does "my" church feel about this?"
"Oh, but I was taught in college to believe this and I have to
believe it because my very intelligent professor(s) said it is
"Why, my father and his father were 'Republicans,' 'Baptists,'
'atheists,' '________' [you fill in the blank], and that's just
good enough for me!"
"The media says 'so and so' so that has to be right. Why, those
good reporters would never tell us something that isn't
"And if there's anyone on Earth that knows more than me it's my
doctor! I have to listen to everything he says!"
We go through our days with our trained life-filters on, and
it's so hard to break through these built-in thinking patterns
and say, "Wait a minute. I'm going to open my mind to
possibilities and think this situation through for myself. Maybe
things aren't exactly like they say they are." But with
some practice and determination, you can learn to think for
Never be afraid to look at life through your own eyes and
your own heart.
Word From Pat
I had the joy of keeping
my two grandkids, Shaun and Kayla, this weekend. The weather
was beautiful! Sunday the temperature was in the upper 60s, so we played
outside most of the day.
One of their favorite things to do is for me to sit on the end of the
picnic table bench and push Kayla in the swing and pitch the ball for
Shaun to bat―at the same time. We have this down to a science. Push,
pitch, push, catch, push, pitch―okay, you get the idea.
Another favorite game is
to blow bubbles. I keep a good supply of bubble solution and
bubble-blowing wands on hand. So on a "good wind" day we can dip the wands
in the bubbles and the wind will make millions of bubbles! Well, maybe not
millions, but a lot. They love for me to keep the bubbles in the air while
they chase them. Sometimes this requires me doing a double-handed
wand-swinging bubble-blowing routine.
Needless to say, all the above activities
give me a good upper body workout. I'm a little sore today, but in a good
Peggy Elam, founder & president of
Pearlsong Press, my publisher, has had an extremely busy past few
days. All of my fiction books are now formatted in Mobipocket eBook
format. To check them out, just
follow this link:
I did my latest radio show with Peggy on Jan. 26th. You can listen
directly by clicking on
Or go to
http://www.healthateverysize.info/ and explore some of the
surrounding information about the show, and also listen.
On Feb.11th, at 12:00 noon until 1:00 pm EST (11 am to noon CST),
I'll be doing a teleconference, a "Pearlsong
Conversation." If you would like to be a part of this conversation,
the phone number is 712-775-7000 and the access code is 555092#.
Just call the number and you'll be directed as to when to put in the
access code. It's very easy.
Keep in mind that this will be treated like any long distance phone call,
so if you don't have unlimited phone calling, etc. your usual long
distance toll will apply. But otherwise, there's no fee to participate.
Participation in the Pearlsong Conversation is on a first come, first
served basis and the number of total participants is limited to 96. You
can read more about this new series of teleconference calls at
I'd love to chat with you all!
Everyone have a wonderful February.
Visit Pat's Place at
www.patballard.com | Write me at
from Pearlsong Press:
Pat's first nonfiction book,
10 Steps to Loving Your
(No Matter What Size You Are)
As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a
societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter
What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to
heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size
diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.
Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.
More info at the
Pearlsong Press website.
(All copies of 10 Steps
purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)
About The Queen & Her Books
Pat's Place website
The Queen's Blog
About Pat Ballard
Dangerous Curves Ahead
The Best Man
Wanted: One Groom
His Brother's Child
A Worthy Heir
Pearlsong Press blog posts about Pat
A few questions to ask yourself.
1. Do you know a naturally fat person who has gone on a diet and kept the
weight off? I don't know of anyone.
2. Of all the people you know who have had some kind of heart problems,
how many of them are fat? What is the ratio? More fat, more slim or more
average? I only know of one fat person who has had heart problems. The
rest have been slim or average.
3. Who would you rather be around―someone who is constantly obsessing over
what they can or can't eat, or someone who is happy with themselves and
4. If you're dieting at
the present, who are you doing it for? Yourself? Your spouse? To impress
your friends? Why?
5. Would you be willing
to starve yourself day in and day out if you knew it would only add 2 to 5
years to your life? That's all that is promised by the so called "experts"
who scream that we need to lose weight if we want to live longer.
So you can be hungry and
miserable until you die, or eat, drink and be merry and just die 2 years
younger. Hmmm. Let me think about this...
The reasons are unclear, but obesity can shave 3 to 4 years off your
life, says Robert Butler, MD, president of the nonprofit International
Longevity Center-USA, an affiliate of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine
in New York.
[Ed. Note: There is no clearly
established link between weight and mortality. Other research indicates
that "overweight" people actually live longer than "normal weight"
Reader Review of the
We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation.
Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and
email us at proclamation @ pearlsong.com to let us know, and we'll
consider yours for inclusion in The QP.
The following review of
10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) was
on the Amazon.com website by Judith Matz, author of
The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance & Self-Care.
As a therapist, I know that the toughest
part for most women in their journey to make peace with food is learning
how to build a better body image. 10 Steps to Loving Your Body
is a fabulous resource for doing just that. Author Pat Ballard offers her
own wisdom, along with inspirational quotes from people such as Gilda
Radner and Wayne Dyer. One of my favorites: "Begin challenging your
assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them
off every once in awhile or the light won't come in." (Alan Alda)
If you are struggling with weight/body image issues, keep this book on
your nightstand or in your purse, and open its pages often. It will be
like having a kind and gentle best friend with you who wants what's best
for you and knows how to help you get there.
an interview with Pat at The F-word (Food. Fat. Feminism.)
Communicate with Pat
via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
Pat's romantic suspense novel Abigail's Revenge is featured on the Beautiful
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
An article on Pat has been
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
Calendar of Events
New from Pearlsong Press—Pat's
latest (and first nonfiction) book, 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No
Matter What Size You Are).
See http://www.pearlsong.com/10steps.htm to order.
All copies purchased directly from the Pearlsong Press website will be
autographed by the author.
Hear Pat on
the air at Radio Free Nashville! Listen to or download the mp3
recording of Pat's January 26, 2009 guest appearance on the Health
At Every Size show with Dr. Peggy Elam on WRFN Radio Free Nashville
by going to
Pat regularly guests on Radio Free Nashville's
Health At Every Size
show, which airs every Monday morning.
She's usually in the studio on the fourth Monday of the month. The show is streamed live
over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can
also now subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the
mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player)
via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper
lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your
Listen to the live
broadcasts over the Internet at
http://www.radiofreenashville.org/. You can also listen to
the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM. See the
Health At Every Size show website or the
Radio Free Nashville website
for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show
live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel
For more on the show, check out
the show blog at
http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download recordings of some of the shows,
including several with Pat, at
You can still hear the taped radio shows from Size Matters with
Veronica, WCRS Radio, on Pat's website.
discusses Pat's romance novels
Show #2 discusses women of size and their sexuality
And check out the photos from the Nov. 6, 2004 Mississippi Authors
Festival that are online at
The Pearlsong Letter
(Click on the Mississippi Authors Festival link under the "Photo Albums"
heading in the lefthand column of either blog to view the photos.) While
you're visiting, post a comment on the blog!
Give someone a good
read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!
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