The Queen's Proclamation

 

 

 

November 2009
News, updates, & pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear
is to make it easier for people to accept themselves, to like themselves.

Bonaro W. Overstreet

Several things within the past few days have had me thinking about the crippling aspect of fear.
 
Now I'm not talking about "healthy" fears. We should be afraid to do things that will hurt or kill us just from the act of doing them.
 
The fear I'm speaking of is more or less psychological fear. Fear of doing things in public because of what someone might say about us. Fear of speaking up on a subject that we really feel strongly about because we think someone might judge us for our beliefs. Fear of wearing an article of clothing because we think we might look silly in it.

These are, more or less, useless fears. Fears that we've learned.

Dorothy Thompson is quoted as saying, "Fear grows in darkness; if you think there's a bogeyman around, turn on the light."

When I was a child, I had two uncles who were more like older brothers than uncles because they were not that much older than I was. They lived with their parents, across the country road from my family. As the only small child in their lives, they loved to torment me. (For whatever reason, I still loved/love them with all my heart.)
 
They would tell me that if I was bad the "boogerman" (the Devil, in this case) would get me. For many years I lived in fear of the boogerman. Especially at night when the lights went out. I would wait for him to come and stick his pitchfork in my feet and take me away.
 
They would also tell me that a "booger" was going to get me. Kids refer to scary things as "monsters" nowadays. But in south Mississippi, "boogers" were about the scariest thing around when I was a child.

Then one night, as I had stared at an object in a far corner of the room that I was convinced was a person—the boogerman—I suddenly became angry. I got out of my bed and went to that object and touched it. It turned out to be a coat that was hanging on the back of a chair.

I learned a valuable lesson that night. Stop waiting until the boogerman comes for me. Go touch it. Or find it. And until this day if I hear any noise in my house at night, I refuse to lie in my bed and wait for it to come and "get" me. I'm out of that bed with a quickness and on my way to confront my "boogers."

I have carried this thought process into other areas of my life. If I get an opportunity to do something that seems "scary" or intimidating, I usually force myself to do it, just so I can grow from the experience of conquering yet another fear.

Eleanor Roosevelt writes, "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do."

So if some fear is keeping you from doing something that you really want to do, walk up to it and touch it. Face it. You'll be amazed at how quickly that fear dissipates into thin air once you've called its bluff.

And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

Marianne Williamson
 
Hi everyone!

It's a perfect fall day in Nashville, TN. The temperature is in the sixties and the leaves are fluttering from the trees like multicolored snowflakes.

Soon the backyard will be covered with leaves and my grandkids, Shaun and Kayla, and I will have our annual "leaf fight." There's just something about playing in the leaves that makes fall complete.

My husband, Joe, and I are a lot alike in many areas of life, but when it comes to the yard, we're total opposites. I love to leave the leaves on the ground and walk in them. He wants to rake or mow them as soon as they hit the ground. So we've compromised. He keeps the front yard as leaf-free as possible, but lets the backyard stack up with them until I have a chance to play with the kids. Then he rakes them and puts them in the compost bin.

He's also the "keep everything manicured, trimmed, and in total order" kind of yard keeper, and I'm the "English garden, wildflower, ivy on the trees" gardener. Again, we compromise. In fact, one of our neighbors said to Joe, "This place looks like the bayou." So I agreed to let Joe trim some things.

In case you didn't see the last issue of the newsletter, I'm offering my latest book as a free download. If you enjoy it, pass the word around.

Something To Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Everyone have a wonderful November, and HAPPY THANKSGIVING to all the pilgrims in the U.S.!

                                                     Love,

                                                                    Pat

Visit Pat's Place at www.patballard.com | Write me at patballard@bellsouth.net
 

Click on the Bookbuzzr graphic (if visible on your computer screen) to browse an excerpt from Pat's newest book,
10 Steps to Loving Your Body
(No Matter What Size You Are)


As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.

Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.


More info at the Pearlsong Press website. (All copies of 10 Steps purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)

You can also browse and share excerpts from 10 Steps to Loving Your Body, Something to Think About and Pat's other books online at http://www.pearlsong.com/patballardbookexcerpts.htm.

 

Links About The Queen & Her Books

Pat's Place website
The Queen's Blog
About Pat Ballard
Dangerous Curves Ahead
The Best Man
Abigail's Revenge
Wanted: One Groom
Nobody's Perfect
His Brother's Child
A Worthy Heir
Pearlsong Press blog posts about Pat

Weighty Matters

Jana Stanfield has a new album out titled What Would You Do This Year If You Had No Fear?

Peggy Elam introduced the album to me when we were doing our latest Health At Every Size radio show. The title is one of the things that inspired me to write about fear in the "Something To Think About" section of this newsletter.

The song "Hottie" in this album is awesome. Please take the time to watch the video linked to below and listen to the lyrics of the song. The words are very meaningful, and I'm so happy that people of all sizes, shapes and ages were used for the video.

Enjoy! 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4GVvF8KP6g
 

Reader Review of the Month

Editor's Note: We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation. Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and email us at proclamation @ pearlsong.com to let us know, and we'll consider yours for inclusion in The QP

The following review of 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are)was posted on the Amazon.com website by Susan Schulherrauthor of  Eating Disorders for Dummies. 

"If you're a woman, odds are you're not happy with your body. You probably can't remember when you weren't at war with your belly or your thighs. (Men are beginning to catch up with their own versions of body discontent.) Western culture provides you with a steady stream of images and advice about an often unattainable "right" way to look, feeding your feelings that you just aren't acceptable as you are. 

"Enter Pat Ballard with
10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) to supply a badly-needed alternative voice! Ballard's easy-to-read, easy-to-use volume is like having your own personal coach and cheerleader for ending the warfare and making peace with the body you have. She's out in front to show you the way, behind you to nudge you forward, and beside you offering support and encouragement for every step (all 10!) of your journey. She accomplishes this with guidelines ("...our bodies know what they want to look like"), worksheets to practice new ways of thinking and behaving ("...look for 10 good things about [your] body and try to develop them"), and the greatest collection of inspirational quotes for body-love and general self-respect you're likely to find anywhere (for example, from Gloria Steinem, 'Each individual woman's body demands to be accepted on it's own terms.' Or, from an unknown author, 'It's not who you are that holds you back; it's who you think you're not.') 

"10 Steps is your body's best friend in pocket form. I'm delighted to have it on hand to recommend—personally and professionally—to anyone struggling with body image and the inkling that it's better to embrace than fight the one-and-only body you have."

 

Browse and share excerpts from Pat Ballard's books online.

Listen to the mp3 recording of Pat, her fearless publisher, and several other Pearlsong Press authors in a Pearlsong Conversation about creating fat friendly fiction and fat positive characters.

Listen to Pat on the June 1, 2009 Health At Every Size radio show
on Radio Free Nashville.

Listen to a Feb. 11, 2009 Conversation with Pat Ballard
(blog post with link to 50-min mp3 recording of Pat talking about her journey to
self- and body-acceptance and -love, her writing process,
and why a truly Valentine's Day and satisfying sex life starts with loving your body,
no matter what it looks like.

Read an interview with Pat at The F-word (Food. Fat. Feminism.) blog.

Communicate with Pat via her "Amazon Connect" blog on Amazon.com!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/blog/id/AC8LT66HFJQ1Y/ref=cm_blog_blog/102-0429066-5275365

Pat's romantic suspense novel Abigail's Revenge is featured on the Beautiful Portal website: http://www.beautifulportal.com/news.php?item.900034.8
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:
http://www.venusimaging.com/Magazine/2005/decjanrealistic/jennifer.htm

 An article on Pat has been posted at:
http://eastmanpublishing.com/epextra/articles/eparticle1007.htm.
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at
http://eastmanpublishing.com/epextra/articles/eparticle1011.htm 

Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at
http://www.lonniecruse.blogspot.com.

Calendar of Events

Now available from Pearlsong PressPat's newest book, the nonfiction Something to Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image, & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances. It's a FREE PDF ebook that can be downloaded at http://www.pearlsong.com/somethingtothinkabout.htm or via the link at the beginning of this newsletter.

Pat is now co-hosting Radio Free Nashville's Health At Every Size show, which airs every Monday morning. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can also subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player) via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your choice.

Listen to the live broadcasts over the Internet at http://www.radiofreenashville.org/. You can also listen to the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM.  See the Health At Every Size show website or the Radio Free Nashville website for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel 10.

For more on the show, check out the show blog at http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download recordings of many of the shows at www.pearlsong.com/audio.htm.
 

Give someone a good read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!

 

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