The Queen's Proclamation




September 2009
News, updates, & pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

(I Never Promised You A) Rose Garden

I beg your pardon,
I never promised you a rose garden.
Along with the sunshine,
There's gotta be a little rain sometimes.

Written by Joe South—Recorded by Lynn Anderson

The second paragraph of the U.S. Declaration of Independence reads: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." (Emphasis mine.)

Now we know that "all men" are not created equal in all walks of life. But we are all created equal in the unalienable Rights to be allowed to pursue Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

The reason I'm using this example is the "pursuit of happiness." Notice that there's no promise of happiness itself, but rather the pursuit of it. The chasing of it. As Benjamin Franklin says, "The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself."

The "rose garden" isn't promised.

There are two kinds of happiness. One is the happiness that's within. That's a wonderful thing to have. I believe some are born with that inner happiness and the peace that "everything will be okay." I usually have that. But inner happiness can also be learned.

Then there is the happiness that comes from external things. Goals reached. Things acquired. But those are happiness flashes. Soon the euphoria is gone and one is looking, pursuing, searching for something else to make one happy.

Personally, I believe you can gain inner happiness by truly appreciating what you have. Instead of the constant search for more, more, more—Stop. Look around you. Be thankful for what you have and feel the inner peace settle in.

We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come
as a result of getting something we don't have,
but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.

Frederick Keonig

A Word From Pat

Hi everyone!

I hope September has started out on a positive note for you.

As I mentioned in the August newsletter, I'm now the Events Chair and the VP of the Nashville chapter of the Women's National Book Association. Check us out at We've been busy trying to jumpstart the new season. WNBA meets on the first Thursday of each month. from September through May.

Then a couple of weeks ago, Peggy Elam asked me to co-host her Health At Every Size show on Radio Free Nashville, so I'm officially doing that each Monday from 10 to 11 a.m. CST. The show is streamed live over the Internet, so listen in! It's also archived in mp3 format so it can be listened to at one's own convenience. I hope soon we'll be able to take callers. But that's a learning curve that we haven't yet conquered.

Find info about the show and listen to archived shows at  You can also find archived shows at

Also, in August, I did an online interview on the BBW Reviews Blog. Read it at

My son, Eric, and his family have battled the head/chest thing that has hit so many people this summer. My granddaughter, Kayla, was hit especially hard. It took her several trips to the doctor and several weeks to finally start getting over it. Today (as I write this) is her seventh birthday! Grandson Shaun is now nine. Wow. How time slips (sprints) away.

I had the joy of keeping the grandkids last weekend. Eric and Tiffany came over on Sunday afternoon and I cooked a big pot of pinto beans, some cheese rice and oven "French fries." I totally enjoyed my weekend.

Husband Joe put down some new linoleum in the front bathroom and is busily painting doors and door frames inside the house.

So August was pretty busy, and the beginning of September hasn't slowed down.

Everyone have a safe and happy September!



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Click on the Bookbuzzr graphic to browse an excerpt from Pat's newest book,
10 Steps to Loving Your Body
(No Matter What Size You Are)

As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.

Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.

More info at the Pearlsong Press website. (All copies of 10 Steps purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)

Please share the 10 Steps book widget above with friends through email, Facebook, MySpace, & other web media. Browse and share excerpts from Pat's other books online at


Links About The Queen & Her Books

Pat's Place website
The Queen's Blog
About Pat Ballard
Dangerous Curves Ahead
The Best Man
Abigail's Revenge
Wanted: One Groom
Nobody's Perfect
His Brother's Child
A Worthy Heir
Pearlsong Press blog posts about Pat

Weighty Matters

There is a new show on the Lifetime channel titled Drop Dead Diva. (See I'm encouraging everyone to watch this show and please support the producers who were brave enough to put it together.

In my opinion Drop Dead Diva is one of the best things for the size acceptance and Health At Every Size movements that has come along. It's better than a movie because it's an ongoing series. One watches a movie, then forgets about it.

Here's a brief synopsis of the show from :

"Drop Dead Diva is Lifetime's spirited new comedic drama series that puts a wildly unique and entertaining spin on the complex issues of a woman's identity in today's world.

The show tells the story of a beautiful-but-vapid model wannabe, Deb, who has a fatal car accident and suddenly finds herself in front of Heaven's gatekeeper, Fred, who declares her a self-centered "zero." Outraged, Deb attempts to persuade Fred to return her to her shallow existence but is accidentally relegated to the body of the recently deceased Jane Bingum (Brooke Elliott). A brilliant, thoughtful and plus-size attorney with a loyal assistant (Margaret Cho), Jane has always lived in the shadow of her more comely colleagues, whereas Deb has always relied on her external beauty. Now, by a twist of fate and a bolt of divine intervention, Deb must come to terms with inhabiting Jane’s plus-size frame and learn to reconcile her beauty queen ways with her brilliant new mind."

I don't have room in the newsletter to say all I'd like to say about this show, so just check it out. But if you want to hear me rave about it, just listen to Peggy and me on the August 24, 2009 HAES show : .

You can watch the past episodes on your computer if you have fast Internet access. If you want some fun entertainment, start at Episode 1 and watch them all.

Drop Dead Diva airs on Sunday nights at 8 p.m. (CST), then again at 10, then replays on most Monday nights at 8 p.m.


Reader Review of the Month

Editor's Note: We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation. Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and email us at proclamation @ to let us know, and we'll consider yours for inclusion in The QP

The following review of 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are)was posted on the website by Susan Schulherrauthor of  Eating Disorders for Dummies. 

"If you're a woman, odds are you're not happy with your body. You probably can't remember when you weren't at war with your belly or your thighs. (Men are beginning to catch up with their own versions of body discontent.) Western culture provides you with a steady stream of images and advice about an often unattainable "right" way to look, feeding your feelings that you just aren't acceptable as you are. 

"Enter Pat Ballard with
10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) to supply a badly-needed alternative voice! Ballard's easy-to-read, easy-to-use volume is like having your own personal coach and cheerleader for ending the warfare and making peace with the body you have. She's out in front to show you the way, behind you to nudge you forward, and beside you offering support and encouragement for every step (all 10!) of your journey. She accomplishes this with guidelines ("...our bodies know what they want to look like"), worksheets to practice new ways of thinking and behaving ("...look for 10 good things about [your] body and try to develop them"), and the greatest collection of inspirational quotes for body-love and general self-respect you're likely to find anywhere (for example, from Gloria Steinem, 'Each individual woman's body demands to be accepted on it's own terms.' Or, from an unknown author, 'It's not who you are that holds you back; it's who you think you're not.') 

"10 Steps is your body's best friend in pocket form. I'm delighted to have it on hand to recommend—personally and professionally—to anyone struggling with body image and the inkling that it's better to embrace than fight the one-and-only body you have."


Browse and share excerpts from Pat Ballard's books online.

Listen to the mp3 recording of Pat, her fearless publisher, and several other Pearlsong Press authors in a Pearlsong Conversation about creating fat friendly fiction and fat positive characters.

Listen to Pat on the June 1, 2009 Health At Every Size radio show
on Radio Free Nashville.

Listen to a Feb. 11, 2009 Conversation with Pat Ballard
(blog post with link to 50-min mp3 recording of Pat talking about her journey to
self- and body-acceptance and -love, her writing process,
and why a truly Valentine's Day and satisfying sex life starts with loving your body,
no matter what it looks like.

Read an interview with Pat at The F-word (Food. Fat. Feminism.) blog.

Communicate with Pat via her "Amazon Connect" blog on!

Pat's romantic suspense novel Abigail's Revenge is featured on the Beautiful Portal website:
and has been reviewed by AmaZe eMag:

 An article on Pat has been posted at:
And an EP Extra review of Abigail's Revenge is posted at 

Look for an interview with Pat on Lonnie Cruse's blog at

Calendar of Events

Now available from Pearlsong PressPat's latest (and first nonfiction) book, 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are). See to order. All copies purchased directly from  Pearlsong Press are autographed by the author.

Pat is now co-hosting Radio Free Nashville's Health At Every Size show, which airs every Monday morning. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can also subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player) via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your choice.

Listen to the live broadcasts over the Internet at You can also listen to the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM.  See the Health At Every Size show website or the Radio Free Nashville website for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel 10.

For more on the show, check out the show blog at You can also listen to or download recordings of many of the shows at

Give someone a good read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!


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