The Queen's Proclamation




August 2010
News, updates, & pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

The last verse of Billy Joel's song "Just the Way You Are" says:

I said I love you, and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.
[Emphasis mine]

Saturday night I happened across the movie Bridget Jones's Diary, and of course had to watch it for the umpteenth time. I love this movie on so many levels that I can't count them. But I think my favorite scene is when Mark Darcy (Colin Firth) was standing on the stairway of his parents' home going through the list of Bridget Jones's (Renee Zellweger) list of shortcomings based on his high-society lifestyle. But at the end he said, "I like you just as you are."

Then Sunday night at the end of another fantastic episode of Drop Dead Diva there was a situation with Jane, (Brooke Elliott) the plus-sized star of the show, that used almost the exact words.

So that has been the theme of my weekend. It got me to thinking how much life would change for everyone if each one of us would tell someone once a day, or once a week, that we love them "just as they are." Think about how much that would affect our lives to say that to someone or have it said to us.

We might think we don't have anyone to say that to, or anyone to tell us that—but maybe we do. Think about how much it would change our lives if when we're standing in front of the mirror thinking about and pointing out all the negative things we think about our own bodies, we would, instead, say, "I like you just as you are."

Billy Joel starts his beautiful song with the line "Don't go changing, to try and please me,
You never let me down before...." Maybe we should add that line when we tell our bodies "I like you just as you are."


Hi everyone!
Okay, I'm really, really ready for this hot weather to go on somewhere! I don't like it.

But other than the heat, July has been a good month. Well, until I caught some weird kind of head "thing" a couple of weeks ago. It's not the flu, but has "flu-like" symptoms. There's a bone-deep weakness that is a main player in this "malady," as my husband, Joe, called it. Then head congestion, sleepiness, and stomach unrest. Joe took it about a week after I caught it, and the head/chest congestion hit him a lot harder. But we both seem to be pulling out of it, and I do believe we'll live!

Son Eric and his family went on vacation, so I got to keep Lacy, their 70+ pound dog that I just love. She's such a sweetheart! I kept her last year and I think she remembered being at our house, because she settled down much quicker this time than she did last year. She knows I love her!

My July 10 book event at the Williamson County Library went well. We had a decent turnout, and the librarian thought it was a good turnout for a Saturday. I met some interesting people. Williamson County Public TV had a couple of interns there taping it for WC-TV Programming on Comcast 3, Charter 96, AT&T 99, and Tollgate Village and Bridgemore Village 1. I was on the Friday, July 30 WCTV schedule as: "7:00 p.m. Author Afternoon with Pat Ballard at the Williamson County Library End time 7:50."

I haven't seen it, but I'm hoping I can get a copy of the taping.

Everyone have a wonderful August.
Something To Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

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10 Steps to Loving Your Body
(No Matter What Size You Are)

As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.

Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.

More info at the Pearlsong Press website. (All copies of 10 Steps purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)

You can also browse and share Bookbuzzr excerpts from 10 Steps to Loving Your Body, Something to Think About and Pat's other books online at


Weighty Matters

I've pasted below the link to an interview with Josh Berman, the creator and executive producer of the hit TV show Drop Dead Diva on Lifetime television.

Berman seems to have a real grasp of what's going on with the entertainment world and the plus-size woman. He talks about all the cast of the show and what he hopes to accomplish. I found it to be an intriguing interview. Below is a question and answer from the interview.

... So tell me, most shows would never dream of making a plus-size woman the star. How did you come up with this idea?

Josh Berman:
The idea came about in a roundabout way. Um, growing up the person I was closest to was my grandmother…she was a 4’11”, rather large woman, who was a Holocaust survivor, yet carried herself like a super model. And I always thought wouldn’t it be great to bring a character like that to television…something you’ve never seen and as a child, something I really looked up to. Her life was never affected by the way she looked, it was the way she felt that [sic] her. Her name in real life was Debra, which is why I named the character Deb.

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Listen to the mp3 recording of Pat, her fearless publisher, and several other Pearlsong Press authors in a Pearlsong Conversation about
creating fat friendly fiction and fat positive characters

Listen to a Feb. 11, 2009 Conversation with Pat Ballard
(blog post with link to 50-min mp3 recording of Pat talking about her journey to
self- and body-acceptance and -love, her writing process,
and why a truly Happy Valentine's Day and satisfying sex life
starts with loving your body,

no matter what it looks like.

Calendar of Events

Now available from Pearlsong Press—Pat's newest book, the nonfiction Something to Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image, & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances. It's a FREE PDF ebook that can be downloaded at or via the link at the beginning of this newsletter.

Pat is now co-hosting Radio Free Nashville's Health At Every Size show, which airs every Monday morning. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can also subscribe to the podcast of the show. Go to for more info, including archived recordings, or to subscribe.

You can also listen to or download recordings of many of the shows at

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