The Queen's Proclamation

 

 

 

February 2010
News, updates, & pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept themselves, to like themselves.

Bonaro W. Overstreet

Jana Stanfield has an album out titled What Would You Do This Year If You Had No Fear?

I was talking about this concept a few weeks ago with Peggy Elam, who founded  Pearlsong Press, does the Health At Every Size Radio show, and publishes this newsletter, so I decided to use it in this month's newsletter.

First, let me do a disclaimer. There are healthy fears, unhealthy fears, and personal fears that keep us from living our lives to the fullest.

Healthy fears are those that keep us alive. We should be afraid of animals, bugs, places, people and things that can harm us physically or actually kill us. For instance, we wouldn't want to arm-wrestle a wild bear in the wilderness. Healthy fear.

Unhealthy fears are fears that could cause us to make unhealthy choices. For instance, I, Pat Ballard, freely admit that I have an unhealthy fear of spiders. I don't think I have arachnophobia, but I'm almost there. I can and have hurt myself trying to escape a "harmless" spider. I don't care if they're supposedly harmless or not. They're harmful to me if they get on or near me because I have hurt myself trying to get away from them. And I think I'd rather climb to the top of a tree and watch an oncoming tornado before I'd crawl into a storm shelter where I thought there might be a spider. Unhealthy fear.

Personal fears are those that keep us from living our lives to the fullest. I think we all have one or more of these. So stop for a moment and think about your own personal fear(s). Then try to imagine how life would be if you didn't have those fears.

A few examples of personal fears are:

You have a dream that you long to pursue, but you're afraid you'll fail at it if you try.

You hate your job and want to try something different, but are afraid you won't be able to do anything else.

You long to stay at home and "just" be a housewife or househusband, but you're afraid your peers will think you're a "loser" if you do that.

You are afraid of or worry about what someone will think of you if you're fat. Or if you become fat.

You want to stop dieting, but are afraid you'll gain a lot of weight and then "people" will think badly of you.


Okay, now that you've looked your fear in the face, try to imagine that you don't have that fear. How do you feel? Wouldn't it be wonderful to walk through life with the freedom of not being burdened with those fears?

In this year of 2010, work on those fears. Look them directly in the eyes and overpower them.

In The Eagles' song "Already Gone" there's a line that says: "So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key."

We have the key, so let's open the door and chase those fears out of our lives!
 

Hi everyone!

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

I hope you all realized that you didn't receive the January issue of The Queen's Proclamation. If not, then I'm going to feel really "unmissed"!

Peggy Elam, founder and owner of Pearlsong Press — my publisher and also the publisher of this newsletter — had emergency surgery in late December and was on medical leave throughout January and unable to do the newsletter. I'm happy to report she's recovering beautifully.

I hope everyone had a wonderful December and January.

Joe, my husband, and I went to Texas for the Christmas holidays. We saw members of his family and my two youngest brothers and their wonderful families. I really enjoyed it.

In December's newsletter I wrote about Joe's lithotripsy procedures for kidney stones. In January he went back for another X-ray on his kidney to see if all the pieces of the 12mm stone were gone, and sure enough, there was a larger piece hung in his ureter, trapping some smaller pieces behind it. So he was scheduled to go back for his fourth lithotripsy. About a week before he had to go back, however, he passed two fairly large stones and the smaller ones followed. So he's finally finished with that. But—he has a 5mm stone in his left kidney that has to be tackled in six months. If anyone knows of a food or drink that will shrink stones, let me know.

Three Sundays ago, during the weekend that we'd gotten 4 inches of snow, our son, Eric, and his family came over to our house. We went outside and played in the snow. They built a snowman about 4 feet tall, and as of today "Fred" is still out there. He's much, much smaller than he was originally, and I think his head fell off today, but he's still "alive." That's how cold it's been in Nashville for the past 3 weeks!

On Feb. 3, BookBuzzr did an interview with me. I enjoyed their questions. You can read the interview at:
http://www.bookbuzzr.com/blog/author-interviews/bookbuzzr-interviews-author-pat-ballard/

If you didn't see it before—I'm offering my latest book as a free download. If you enjoy it, pass the word around:


Something To Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Download it at
http://www.pearlsong.com/newsroom/patballard/somethingtothinkabout.pdf.

Everyone have a fabulous February.

                                Love,

                                                                    Pat

Visit Pat's Place at www.patballard.com | Write me at patballard@bellsouth.net
 

Click on the Bookbuzzr graphic (if visible on your computer screen) to browse an excerpt from Pat's book

10 Steps to Loving Your Body
(No Matter What Size You Are)


As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.

Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.


More info at the Pearlsong Press website. (All copies of 10 Steps purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)

You can also browse and share Bookbuzzr excerpts from 10 Steps to Loving Your Body, Something to Think About and Pat's other books online at http://www.pearlsong.com/patballardbookexcerpts.htm.

 

Weighty Matters

As we hear more and more about the "war on obesity," I decided to write a Peace Treaty with My Body in the War on Obesity. Feel free to print it out, pass it around, share it, sign it and pass the word. A PDF version of the Peace Treaty can be downloaded at http://www.pearlsong.com/newsroom/patballard/peacetreaty.pdf.

Peace Treaty with My Body in the War on Obesity

Article 1:

I acknowledge that I have been at war with my body for ___________ [amount of time]. I now deem my body to be in a free sovereign and independent situation, and that I treat it as such, and that I will relinquish all claims of territorial rights that would allow me to take away the freedom for it to be the natural size it needs to be.

Article 2:

And that in all disputes which might arise in the future on the subject of the boundaries of my body, it is hereby agreed and declared that the following are and shall be its own boundaries. I shall always provide proper food for my body and allow its boundaries to expand, shrink or stay the size it presently is. I shall at no time try to exercise my right to dispute these boundaries, for they are now the boundaries of my body, and my body shall let me know when it has reached its programmed setpoint.

Article 3:

It is agreed that my body shall continue to enjoy, without interference, the right to take food of every kind at the time it deems that it is hungry and so chooses to partake of whatever kind of food it longs for. The choice of food will not be based on whether the foods are considered “good” foods or “bad foods.” Nor will the amount of food taken in by my body be based on what some chart says is enough or not enough. My body has the freedom to choose and make that decision.

Article 4:

It is agreed that Naysayers on any side shall not be allowed to point their fingers and judge my body in the event that my body starts to exceed “recommended” and “accepted” boundaries. But above all it is agreed that I shall not be allowed to take part in such degrading activities.

Article 5:

It is agreed that I shall henceforth listen to my body when it tries to tell me something. I shall make it a point to listen when it says it needs a certain food, or when it doesn’t need or want a particular food, or when it needs rest, or when something more serious is wrong. And no other person will be allowed to cause me to take a stand against what my body is telling me.

Article 6:

It is agreed that there shall be no future conflicts, nor any action taken against my body by way of furthering this War of Obesity against it. Nor will it suffer any future loss or damage, either in part or in whole, and shall be immediately set at liberty, and the previous persecutions shall be without delay discontinued.

Article 7:

Starting today, there shall be a firm and perpetual peace between my body and me. No person, group or establishment shall interfere with said peace. No doubt shall be allowed to rear its ugly head as to the validity of this peace treaty. And wherefore all hostilities from me toward my body shall cease and desist as of this day

Article 8:

The choice of the size of my body shall forever remain free and open to be decided by my body’s genetic makeup, physical setpoint and any extenuating circumstances that might arise.

Article 9:

In case it should so happen that I might lose my way and revert to my past monitoring of my body on how much and what foods it can have, or in some way start to criticize my body for how it looks, I shall promptly be reminded of this peace treaty and be swiftly rebuked, and it is agreed that the treaty shall be restored without delay.

Article 10:

The solemn endorsement of this peace treaty, expedited in good and due form, shall be exchanged between my body and me and shall be in effect from the day of the signature of this peace treaty until the day that my body and I shall part ways.

Sign:

I, __________________________, will do my utmost to follow these Articles every day and live in peace with the body that I have been allowed to walk through this earth in. For it is the vehicle that carries me through life.
 

Reader Review of the Month

Editor's Note: We're now featuring reader reviews of Pat's books in
The Queen's Proclamation. Post a review at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website and email us at proclamation @ pearlsong.com to let us know, and we'll consider yours for inclusion in The QP

The following comment about Pat's books was posted by Barbara Chabot at the Bookbuzzr website at www.freado.com: "I love reading these novels and stories! They are about real women in a world that is ever changing! Thank you, I have really enjoyed your books so far and look forward to more in the future!"
 

Browse and share excerpts from Pat Ballard's books online.

Listen to the mp3 recording of Pat, her fearless publisher, and several other Pearlsong Press authors in a Pearlsong Conversation about
creating fat friendly fiction and fat positive characters
.

Listen to a Feb. 11, 2009 Conversation with Pat Ballard
(blog post with link to 50-min mp3 recording of Pat talking about her journey to
self- and body-acceptance and -love, her writing process,
and why a truly Happy Valentine's Day and satisfying sex life
starts with loving your body,

no matter what it looks like.

Calendar of Events

Now available from Pearlsong PressPat's newest book, the nonfiction Something to Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image, & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances. It's a FREE PDF ebook that can be downloaded at http://www.pearlsong.com/somethingtothinkabout.htm or via the link at the beginning of this newsletter.

Pat is now co-hosting Radio Free Nashville's Health At Every Size show, which airs every Monday morning. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can also subscribe to the podcast of the show (automatically receive the mp3 recordings of the weekly shows on your computer, iPod or mp3 player) via iTunes. Click on the "subscribe in a reader" button/link in the upper lefthand column, and select "Add to iTunes" or the podcatcher of your choice.

Listen to the live broadcasts over the Internet at http://www.radiofreenashville.org/. You can also listen to the live broadcasts through your telephone via UPSNAP.COM.  See the Health At Every Size show website or the Radio Free Nashville website for details. Davidson County, Tennessee residents can also hear the show live through the Secondary Audio Programming of Comcast cable's Channel 10.

For more on the show, check out the show blog at http://www.healthateverysize.info. You can also listen to or download recordings of many of the shows at www.pearlsong.com/audio.htm.
 

Give someone a good read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!

 

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