The Queen's Proclamation




February/March 2011
News, updates, & pronouncements from Pat Ballard,
the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. 
Eleanor Roosevelt

Something to think about....

The body too has its rights; and it will have them:
they cannot be trampled on without peril.
The body ought to be the soul's best friend.
Many good men however have neglected to make it such:
so it has become a fiend and has plagued them.

Augustus William Hare & Julius Charles Hare
 Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers (1827)

Due to circumstances beyond our control, Dr. Peggy Elam, publisher of my books and of this newsletter, had a long and stressful February, so I didn't send out a Queen's Proclamation that month. Hopefully, some of you noticed! [Ed. Note: Flu and family emergencies are not a fun combination. Fortunately all are healing.]

For February and Valentine's Day I had intended to write about loving our bodies so that we will be more open to allowing others to love us. After Valentine's Day came and went I was thinking of writing on some other topic, but then reminded myself that loving our bodies and allowing our mates to love our bodies isn't just a once-a-year event. We should be doing this every day of the year.

If we hate our bodies, it's hard to go through each day in a happy, joyful state of mind because we're constantly reminding ourselves that we "aren't okay." And, added to that, if we hate our bodies it's even harder to be intimate with someone, because we're tied in knots worrying about how we look to them and what they're thinking about how we look. Any of us who have experienced this knows how it can destroy our ability to relax and enjoy making love to our mates and allowing them to make love to us. What we forget to remember is that if the other person didn't love us or wasn't attracted to us they wouldn't want to make love with us.

If you haven't been able to say to yourself that you love your body, maybe you could start the process by learning first to appreciate the wonderful body that you have.

Below is a short video that is done in a "cartoon-style" production, but points out some wonderful truths about our bodies. It's perfect to play for your children and grandchildren to teach them to appreciate and love their bodies. 

The next step after you learn to appreciate your body is to learn to accept it. This is, after all, your body. It's the body that you have genetically inherited, and even if there have been "things" that happened to your body along the way, it's still your body. Unless you plan to have a brain transplant into someone else's body, you're stuck with the one you have. So you need to learn to accept it and stop trying to morph it into someone else's. Or stop treating it as Robert Brault said: "The way he treats his body, you’d think he was renting."

Next, show your body that you appreciate and accept it by not feeding negative thoughts into it.

Some patients I see are actually draining into their bodies
 the diseased thoughts of their minds.

Zacharty Bercovitz

And before you know it, you'll start to realize that you really do love the body you have.

Hi everyone!

I've had a fun and busy time since we last talked. I finished Dangerous Love and sent it to publisher Peggy. Husband Joe gave me the idea for this book. The heroine, Ava Manning, discovers data that has been tampered with and is going to blow the whistle on Cloneall Drugs, Inc. That is, if she lives long enough!

Son Eric and family came over last Sunday afternoon. The weather was nice, so we got to spend a lot of time outside. Joe, Eric and G-son Shaun played basketball while D-I-L Tiffany and I sat at the picnic table and watched and dodged the ball. I did get hit upside my head by an escaped ball once, but it only jarred my teeth a little. No harm done.

G-daughter Kayla played in the swings and "explored," as she calls it when she crosses the little bridge that goes across a concrete drain. She likes walking along the fence line of our yard looking for bugs, berries and flowers when they're in bloom. When she got tired of that she went to the car and got a book she had been reading and sat between Tiffany and me and read. Tiffany says she's really into reading now. You know that made my day!

I've been "laid low" for a week with a sore throat and stuffy head. Now it's in my larynx and I sound like a frog when I talk. But this morning the sore throat was gone, so I hope the rest will follow quickly.

I had a birthday this week, but although the information on my personal data has changed a little, I don't feel any different than I did last week. Joe went by Baskin Robbins and bought a small ice cream cake that is sooo good, and gave me a sweet card. But the biggest surprise was the 5-lb bag of jewelry he brought me from a local thrift store.

I collect old jewelry, so he bought a pre-packaged bag and brought it to me. I was like a kid at Christmas! We both know that some of the jewelry in those bags will be broken or useless, but it's like looking for treasure. One never knows what will be hiding in there. So far I've found four bracelets, three necklaces and several pair of earrings that I will have fun wearing. Those are the things I picked out first to research on the internet. There was a pair of small diamond earrings. And I still have to take time to go through the rest of the contents of the bag. Fun stuff!

Everyone have a wonderful March. Spring is almost here!



Something To Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances

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Click on the Bookbuzzr graphic (if visible on your computer screen) to browse an excerpt from Pat's book.

10 Steps to Loving Your Body
(No Matter What Size You Are)

Now available in PDF, Mobipocket & Kindle ebook format as well as original trade paperback!

As a young woman Pat Ballard almost died trying to starve her body into a societally approved size. In 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are) she shares the steps she created―and took―to heal the damage of years of dieting. Join her in celebrating size diversity, self esteem, positive body image, and health at every size.

Your body is a unique work of art.
There never has been, nor will there ever be,
another body just like yours.
Learn to love it and it will love you back.

More info at the Pearlsong Press website. (All copies of 10 Steps purchased from the Pearlsong Press website are autographed by Pat.)

You can also browse and share Bookbuzzr excerpts from 10 Steps to Loving Your Body, Something to Think About and Pat's other books online at


Weighty Matters

Within the past week or so I've heard of two heartbreaking stories regarding children who are in deep trouble because of eating disorders. The most troubling one is of the six-year-old daughter of a young couple I know. She's under a doctor's treatment for anorexia. Six years old! Her parents don't know for sure what started her on this road, but they said when she comes home from school and they fix her food for her she constantly asks, "Is this a healthy choice?"

Then last week I ran across an article that was published in November 2010, titled: "Hospitalization For Eating Disorders Among Young Kids Rose 119% in 7 Years."

Hospitalizations of children younger than 12 years rose by 119% from 1999 to 2006, a report issued by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) revealed in the journal Pediatrics. Overall, including all age groups, the same period saw a 15% increase in hospitalizations for eating disorders.

The typical profile for an at-risk individual (child) is no longer useful, the authors stress. The AAP urges doctors and pediatricians to screen all children, adolescents and pre-adolescents for anorexia, bulimia and other eating disorders. The screening should occur during routine check-ups.

You can read the full article here:

We've got to find a way to stop this madness for the sake of our children.

Reader Review of the Month

Editor's Note: Post a review of one of Pat's books
at an online bookstore, magazine, or public website, email us at proclamation @ to let us know, and we'll consider your review for inclusion in The QP

The following note was sent to Pat via email from Teresa S:

Dear Pat, I just wanted to let you know that your books have changed my life in a matter of days.

See, I received a Kindle for Christmas—I always read, always! Most of the time it is Sandra Brown and Linda Howard—I have read all their books. So I typed in on my Kindle "plus size romance" and your books popped up.

In the last 2 days I have read Nobody's Perfect (1st), Dangerous Curves Ahead (2nd), A Worthy Heir (3rd,) His Brother's Child (4th) and just finished Abigail's Revenge. They were all awesome. My favorite is Nobody's Perfect.

I wanted you to know that you are now MY FAVORITE AUTHOR. Please tell me more books are coming. I have been overweight my entire life, I never thought that I was pretty— my husband tells me that I am, BUT until I read your books—WOW, I am telling you life changing. Anyway just wanted you to know that!

Anyway thanks again for your life changing stories. God Bless you always!

Teresa S

Browse and share excerpts from Pat Ballard's books online.

Listen to the mp3 recording of Pat, her fearless publisher, and several other Pearlsong Press authors in a Pearlsong Conversation about
creating fat friendly fiction and fat positive characters

Listen to a Feb. 11, 2009 Conversation with Pat Ballard
(blog post with link to 50-min mp3 recording of Pat talking about her journey to
self- and body-acceptance and -love, her writing process,
and why a truly Happy Valentine's Day and satisfying sex life
starts with loving your body,

no matter what it looks like.

Calendar of Events

Now available from Pearlsong Press—Pat's newest book, the nonfiction Something to Think About: Reflections on Life, Family, Body Image, & Other Weighty Matters by the Queen of Rubenesque Romances. It's a FREE PDF ebook that can be downloaded at or via the link at the beginning of this newsletter.

Pat is now co-hosting Radio Free Nashville's Health At Every Size show, which airs every Monday morning. The show is streamed live over the Internet 10-11 a.m. CST Mondays. You can also subscribe to the podcast of the show. Go to for more info, including archived recordings, or to subscribe.

You can also listen to or download recordings of many of the shows at

Give someone a good read as well as support in loving themselves.
Pat's books make great gifts!


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